168 | Deck the Halls, Not Your Relatives: Kickstart Your Boundary Revolution This Holiday

Show Notes:

Today we’ll be learning about the critical role of boundaries in managing holiday stress and improving family dynamics. We explore the nature of boundaries, provide strategies for clear communication, and give easy tips for setting and maintaining limits during family gatherings. Gain the tools to create a more balanced and enjoyable holiday experience, leading to reduced overwhelm and improved personal well-being.

Enjoy!

-Kendra

 

Family Holiday Boundaries Worksheet

Understanding Boundaries

A boundary is a limit or rule you set for yourself in relationships. It defines what behavior you will or won't accept from others, and how you'll respond. Boundaries are not:

• Threats or ultimatums
• Ways to control others
• Punishments

Boundaries differ from consequences in that:

• Boundaries are rules you set for yourself
• Consequences are actions you take when boundaries are crossed

Step 1: Identify Your Needs and Limits

Reflect on past family holiday experiences. List 3-5 situations that caused you stress or discomfort:

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Step 2: Define Your Boundaries

For each situation, write a clear, simple boundary statement using "I" language:

1. I will...
2. I won't...
3. I need...
4. I don't want...
5. It's not okay for...

Step 3: Communicate Your Boundaries

Practice expressing your boundaries calmly and directly. Write how you'll communicate each:

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Step 4: Plan for Enforcement

For each boundary, decide on a consequence if it's not respected:

1. If [boundary] is crossed, I will...
2. If [boundary] is crossed, I will...
3. If [boundary] is crossed, I will...
4. If [boundary] is crossed, I will...
5. If [boundary] is crossed, I will...

Step 5: Self-Care Strategies

List 3 self-care activities you can do during family gatherings to maintain your boundaries:

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Step 6: Positive Affirmations

Write 3 positive affirmations to remind yourself of the importance of your boundaries:

1. I have the right to...
2. My needs are important because...
3. Setting boundaries helps me...

Remember, setting and maintaining boundaries is a skill that takes practice. Be patient with yourself as you implement these changes

Quotes:

"No is a complete sentence." - Anne Lamott

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