FULFILLMENT THERAPY - Marriage & Family Therapy, Self Mastery, Self Actualization, Unmet Needs, LDS Parent, Family Connection
Hey, Parents! Welcome to Fulfillment Therapy, your space for healing and personal growth, where you can nurture yourselves to enrich your family life. We know the drill - you’re constantly on the hunt for ways to be the best parent and spouse, but it often feels like there’s barely a moment to catch your breath. Balancing your duties, connecting with your kids, and tackling stress can leave you feeling completely exhausted. Mornings start with the best of intentions, but somehow, they often unravel into a whirlwind of arguments with everyone heading in different directions by the day’s end. It’s a stressful cycle, and it’s clear that something is missing. I’m Kendra, a mother and therapist who’s been there before. I’ve learned that to be the best parent you can be, you must prioritize self-care. When you stop ignoring and neglecting your own needs and well-being, you’ll find that you have more energy and less resentment to offer your family. In our relentless pursuit of being super parents, we often forget about the importance of self development and maintaining good mental health, which can lead to anxiety and depression. Balancing the responsibilities of family life while nurturing your personal growth can be difficult. However, it’s essential to become the best version of yourself to be the best parent and spouse. Fulfillment Therapy is about more than just refining your parenting skills; it’s about unlocking your full potential. It’s about rediscovering your values and faith, and creating a safe haven for both you and your family to flourish. In this podcast, we’ll learn tips on reducing stress, overwhelm, and depression, while showing you how to take better care of yourself without neglecting your family and core values. You’ll discover how to advocate for yourself--without shame--and how to nurture your individual worth in sustainable, healthy ways. By replenishing your own cup and meeting your own unmet needs, you can provide more for your family and, most importantly, yourself. We’ll work toward a life where peace, confidence, and a reduced guilt become the norm. You’ll soon discover that your dream of a balanced, joyful life will become your daily reality. It’s time to model healthy self-care, and tap into your unique gifts and talents to make family life more fulfilling than you ever imagined possible. https://fulfillmenttherapy.org Connect → fulfillment.therapist@gmail.com Facebook → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/fulfillmenttherapy/
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Monday Jul 01, 2024
Monday Jul 01, 2024
Show Notes:
Today we’ll talk about the process of eliminating bad habits and stepping into a life of purpose and fulfillment. Through practical tips we uncover the power of understanding our "why," replacing negative habits with positive ones, and living intuitively according to our core values. As we navigate resistance and pushback from others, we're reminded to embrace our brilliance and shine brightly, unapologetically pursuing greatness. Join us on this journey to break free from the chains of complacency and unlock your true potential.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
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Here are five simple tips to help break bad habits:
Identify the Triggers: Recognize the cues or situations that prompt the habit. Understanding what triggers your behavior can help you anticipate and avoid those situations or develop alternative responses.
Replace with Positive Habits: Instead of simply trying to stop a bad habit, focus on substituting it with a healthier or more productive behavior. For example, if you're trying to quit smoking, replace cigarette breaks with a walk or another activity you enjoy.
Set Clear Goals: Define specific, achievable goals related to breaking the habit. Break down larger goals into smaller, manageable steps, and track your progress along the way. Celebrate your successes to stay motivated.
Create Accountability: Share your goals with supportive friends, family members, or a mentor who can provide encouragement and hold you accountable. Consider joining a support group or finding an accountability partner to help you stay on track.
Practice Self-Compassion: Understand that breaking a habit takes time and effort, and setbacks are a natural part of the process. Be kind to yourself and focus on progress rather than perfection. When you slip up, acknowledge it, learn from it, and recommit to your goals.
Quotes:
“Do not go for conformity that breeds mediocrity! Choose instead to stand for transformation that does not only transforms lives, but true purpose and living as well.”
― Ernest Agyemang Yeboah
“Don’t let mediocre people talk you out of your dreams; lions have little in common with sheep.”
― Matshona Dhliwayo
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
- Marianne Williamson
“The tragedy of life is often not in our failure, but rather in our complacency; not in our doing too much, but rather in our doing too little; not in our living above our ability, but rather in our living below our capacities.”-Andy Grove
“To avoid enemies, say nothing; to avoid critics, do nothing; to avoid haters, be nothing; but to avoid mediocrity, ignore all.”
― Matshona Dhliwayo
“Stumbling towards greatness is better than sprinting towards mediocrity.”
― Matshona Dhliwayo
“To be ridiculed for your genius is better than to be praised for your mediocrity.”
― Matshona Dhliwayo
“The lonely road to greatness is better than the crowded road to mediocrity.”
― Matshona Dhliwayo
Thursday Jun 27, 2024
Thursday Jun 27, 2024
Show Notes:
In today’s episode, discover the transformative power of nurturing your child's talents and interests in just 30 minutes a week. As parents, we hold the key to shaping our children's futures by providing guidance, support, and encouragement. Empowering them to pursue their passions instills confidence and joy, leading to fulfillment and success. It's not just about teaching; it's about guiding them to independence, ensuring they thrive beyond screens, and cultivating confidence and happiness along the way. With our support, they'll soar to new heights and embrace a brighter future.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
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Contact → hello@fulfillmenttherapy.org
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy
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Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests
“In our old age, my beloved companion said to me quietly one evening, you have always given me wings to fly and I have loved you for it.” - President Gordon B. Hinckley
"Children must be taught how to think, not what to think." - Margaret Mead
"Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful." - Albert Schweitzer
"The greatest gifts you can give your children are the roots of responsibility and the wings of independence." - Denis Waitley
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10 quick ways to help nurture your children’s talents and interests in under 30 minutes a week:
1. Listen attentively: Pay attention to your child's interests and passions by actively listening to what excites them and sparks their curiosity.
2. Encourage exploration: Provide opportunities for your child to explore different activities and hobbies to discover what resonates with them.
3. Provide resources: Offer access to books, materials, or tools related to their interests, enabling them to delve deeper into their chosen pursuits.
4. Attend events: Take your child to events, workshops, or classes related to their interests to expose them to new ideas and experiences.
5. Offer praise: Celebrate your child's efforts and achievements, offering praise and encouragement to fuel their confidence and motivation.
6. Set aside dedicated time: Schedule regular time for your child to engage in their interests without distractions, allowing them to focus and immerse themselves fully.
7. Be patient: Understand that mastery takes time and practice, and be patient with your child as they navigate the learning process and overcome challenges.
8. Provide support: Offer guidance and assistance when needed, but allow your child to take the lead in pursuing their interests and finding solutions to obstacles.
9. Foster creativity: Encourage your child to think outside the box and express themselves creatively through their chosen talents and interests.
10. Lead by example: Demonstrate your own passion for learning and growth, modeling a lifelong commitment to nurturing talents and pursuing interests.
Monday Jun 24, 2024
Monday Jun 24, 2024
Show Notes:
In today's episode, we tackle the profound loneliness surrounding infertility and miscarriage experiences in our society. Despite the openness about many issues, these struggles remain shrouded in shame and isolation. Join us as we explore the reasons behind this silence and offer insights into finding support and solace during these challenging times. We'll discuss the importance of reaching out for help, embracing vulnerability, and acknowledging that it's okay not to be strong. Together, let's learn how to navigate life's obstacles and keep moving forward, one step at a time.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy
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Contact → hello@fulfillmenttherapy.org
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy
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Maddie Duval
Podcast → Getting Grounded
Instagram → @gettingroundedcoaching
“I just wanted to acknowledge the agony of waiting. Waiting to get pregnant. Waiting for fertility results. Waiting to do a pregnancy test. Waiting to see if your baby will stay. Waiting to see if your baby will be healthy. Waiting to see if you will ever hold your baby in your arms. Waiting can feel endless. It can feel lonely. It can make you feel like you are being slowly tortured. It can make 24-hours feel like eternity. For those who are waiting… I hope the wait will soon be over.”
― Zoe Clark-Coates
“When you survive loss…everyone is quick to tell you how strong you are, and how tough you must be. But actually, no one has a choice to survive grief do they? It’s not optional. You just have to cry in the shower, sob in your pillow and pray you will make it.”
― Zoe Clark-Coates
Thursday Jun 20, 2024
Thursday Jun 20, 2024
Show Notes:
Gain work-life balance insights from married entrepreneurs Kaylee and Robert Fukui in this enlightening episode. Learn their secrets for managing business and family demands while nurturing their relationship. Discover practical tips for balancing work and personal life, ensuring harmony and fulfillment. Tune in for valuable advice and embark on a journey to greater success and harmony.
-Kendra
ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → hello@fulfillmenttherapy.org
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Group → Private FB Group
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
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Kay Lee and Robert Fukui
Podcast- Thriving in Tandem.
https://www.facebook.com/thrivingintandem
https://www.instagram.com/thrivingintandem/reel/C3QYGNXpEwt/
https://marriedentrepreneur.co/
Book: https://www.thetandembook.com/
Monday Jun 17, 2024
Monday Jun 17, 2024
Show Notes:
Join us on an inspiring journey of faith, health, and purpose as Kelsey Wickenhauser, a fellow podcaster, physician’s assistant, and health coach shares her insights on breaking free from diet culture's grip and discovering true wellness in alignment with a greater design. Today we’ll explore easy strategies for nourishing our bodies, prioritizing self-care, and embracing abundance.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → hello@fulfillmenttherapy.org
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Group → Private FB Group
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests
Kelsey Wickenhauser
Website → www.kelseywickenhauser.com
Contact → info@kelseywickenhauser.com
Private FB Community → Kingdom Fit Moms
Public FB Page → www.facebook.com/kelseywickenhauser
Instagram → @kelseywickenhauser
“The greatest tragedy in life is not death, but a life without a purpose.”
― Myles Munroe
Thursday Jun 13, 2024
Thursday Jun 13, 2024
Show Notes:
Ever felt that tug-of-war between who you are and who you think you should be? 🤔 Join us in this episode as we unravel the mystery of cognitive dissonance and discover how embracing discomfort can lead to profound personal transformation. Today, we’ll explore how inner conflict arises when our actions diverge from our core values, learning about cognitive dissonance and practical tips to live in alignment. Get ready to align your actions with your values and pave the path to a more authentic and fulfilling life!
Enjoy!
-Kendra
ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → hello@fulfillmenttherapy.org
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Group → Private FB Group
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests
Cognitive Dissonance
Values.pdf
Definition of Cognitive Dissonance:
Cognitive dissonance refers to the psychological discomfort experienced when individuals hold conflicting beliefs, attitudes, or behaviors. It occurs when there is a misalignment between one's actions and their deeply held values or beliefs, leading to a sense of inner conflict or tension.
Ex. from listeners and clients:
Ben believes in kindness and controlling his temper, but he’s so bitter with his ex that he is his worst self every time he thinks of her and it affects his current relationships. He struggles being kind when it involves anything with her, and justifies his rudeness.
Sara believes in self care and improving your mental health, but she can’t seem to make time for it personally. She gives and gives to her family and feels threadbare and on the verge of breaking down regularly. She is secretly resentful, but doesn’t share this with others.
Jake believes it’s important to cultivate his spirituality, but he doesn’t do much besides show up for church. He never seems to find the time to read scriptures, pray, or meditate.
Lindsay wants to get in better physical health, but instead she just puts on more weight and finds herself shopping and eating more, in attempts to avoid her marriage and parenting problems.
3 Quick Tips:
10 Minutes of Self-Reflection on Sunday Mornings: Take time to reflect on your core values and beliefs. Identify areas in your life where your actions may not align with these values. Honest self-assessment can help you recognize areas for improvement. (ex. I value learning and cultivating talents, but I’m not modeling that for my kids or I value family togetherness and quality time, but we’re all on screen every evening)
Set Clear Intentions: Define clear intentions and goals that are in harmony with your values. Whether it's in your personal relationships, career, or lifestyle choices, setting intentions aligned with your values can guide your decision-making process. (ex. I signed up for an art class and we’re having a family meeting on how it’s important for ALL family members to cultivate talents and live intentionally without making excuses).
Practice Authenticity: Be true to yourself and prioritize authenticity in your thoughts, words, and actions. Act in accordance with your values, even if it means stepping outside your comfort zone or facing challenges. Living authentically fosters a sense of integrity and inner peace. (Ex. being brave on social media or lovingly confronting a friend that says hurtful things about what you value. It is remembering that you are as important as the others in the room and that you also deserve respect. It’s acting as if you believe that, and also where you treat them as if they matter as much as you do. Another example is treating drivers or clerks with the same respect you’d want).
A few other quick thoughts:
Cognitive dissonance is a gift. It teaches us something is wrong. Sometimes it feels like guilt, but we can prevent it from feeling like shame and challenge thoughts that say “I’m wrong” and change them to “what I’m doing isn’t in alignment with who I am and who I want to be.” When you’re so uncomfortable, you finally change.
Find mentors that will elevate you and get you out of complacency and justification. Pay for things that will help you become your best self.
Stop saying why you CAN’T. Explore how you can say yes.
If it’s a priority you’ll find a way, if not, you’ll find an excuse.
Live your life believing things will work out and not why they won’t (ex. Trainings, travel, financial independence, optimal health, spiritually strong).
Monday Jun 10, 2024
Monday Jun 10, 2024
Show Notes:
Welcome to a thoughtful episode of Fulfillment Therapy featuring the seasoned psychologist and author, Dr. David McMillan. With 40 years of experience to his name, Dr. McMillan offers valuable insights on improving marriages and transforming your approach towards parenting. Through our candid discussion, we uncover nuanced details about relationship dynamics by exploring his 'Sense of Community' theory and his profound principles on managing emotions.
Dr. McMillan introduces you to the four fundamental elements that bind relationships - belonging, power and trust, trade, and story. He walks us through these elements and their subcategories, providing a clear road map for nurturing relationships, acknowledging differences, and balancing personal needs with responsibilities of parenthood.
One of the highlights of this episode is the exploration of Dr. McMillan's enriching books, 'Create Your Own Love Story' and 'Emotion Rituals'. His profound literature presents unique guides for building rewarding relationships and managing emotions. From cultivating belongingness to appreciating individuality, his advice is primed to positively reshape your interpersonal dynamics.
In a detailed conversation about emotions and relationships, Dr. McMillan postulates the significance of creating a positive momentum in interactions for stronger bonds. He also emphasizes the need for partners to let go of ego and cultivate a nurturing spirit that enriches their relationship. Pointing at the concept of 'flow' in relationships, he advises couples to glide in harmony with life's rhythm instead of attempting to control the dynamics.
As we explore the realm of parenting, Dr. McMillan suggests that teaching values to children is more effective than imposing penalties. He encourages listeners to approach relationships and life with curiosity, openness, and humility. To delve deeper into this pool of wisdom, visit Dr. McMillan's website and discover more ways to enrich your relationships.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
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Contact → hello@fulfillmenttherapy.org
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*Find Dr. David McMillan's books on drdavidmcmillan.com
Thursday Jun 06, 2024
Thursday Jun 06, 2024
Show Notes:
Welcome to today's episode, where we uncover the keys to personal success and fulfillment. Success is not one-size-fits-all; it's about defining what matters most to you and taking intentional steps to achieve it. We also talk about how to address other's opinions surrounding our paths. So, come join us today as we explore the five essential keys to discovering your unique path to success.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → hello@fulfillmenttherapy.org
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Group → Private FB Group
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests
Success
Values.pdf
Key Takeaways:
Reflect on your core values to guide your decisions and actions.
Channel your frustrations into setting clear, actionable goals aligned with your values.
Embrace continuous learning and growth to fuel your journey toward success.
Cultivate resilience by reframing failures as learning opportunities and persisting in the face of adversity.
Celebrate your progress and small victories along the way to boost motivation and reinforce your commitment to success.
Quotes:
"Values are like lighthouses; they are signals giving us direction, meaning, and purpose." - Unknown
"It’s not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are." - Roy E Disney
"Without continual growth and progress, such words as improvement, achievement, and success have no meaning.” - Benjamin Franklin
"Success is not the destination, but the journey. It's about the person you become along the way." - Kendra Nielson
Monday Jun 03, 2024
Monday Jun 03, 2024
Show Notes:
In today's episode, we discuss Terry Real and how to navigate disharmony, empower your relationships, and create thriving families. We learn the importance of prioritizing repair in conflicts, embracing vulnerability, and addressing unmet needs proactively. By working on assertive communication, mutual respect, and sharing responsibilities, we pave the way towards a more supportive environment for healing and growth within our families. Through compromise and resolution, we pave the way for stronger, more resilient relationships, and foster a harmonious and fulfilling family life.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → hello@fulfillmenttherapy.org
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Group → Private FB Group
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests
Marriage Power Struggle Tips:
Practice Active Listening: Take the time to truly listen to your partner's perspective without interrupting or invalidating their feelings. Seek to understand their point of view before expressing your own, fostering open communication and empathy.
Foster Mutual Respect: Cultivate an environment of mutual respect where both partners' opinions and contributions are valued. Avoid belittling or dismissive language and strive to treat each other with kindness and consideration.
Share Responsibilities Equally: Divide household chores, childcare duties, and decision-making responsibilities fairly between partners. Collaborate on important decisions and tasks, acknowledging each other's strengths and contributions.
Set Clear Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries and expectations within the relationship, respecting each other's individual autonomy and personal space. Communicate openly about your needs and preferences to avoid misunderstandings and conflicts.
Seek Compromise and Resolution: Approach disagreements with a willingness to find common ground and compromise. Focus on finding solutions that benefit both partners rather than winning arguments or asserting dominance. Be proactive in addressing conflicts and resolving issues together.
"It's not disharmony that's the problem, it's the inability to go from disharmony to repair that is the problem." - Terry Real
"Under the patriarchal system, you can either be connected or powerful, but you can't be both." - Terry Real
‘Neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord’ (1 Corinthians 11:11).”
“Men and women are equal—one is not superior to the other. They are also different, with different roles within a family. Both men and women fulfill their highest purpose together as husband and wife, not separately.” -LDS Website
“We have learned by sad experience that it is the nature and disposition of almost all men, as soon as they get a little authority, as they suppose, they will immediately begin to exercise unrighteous dominion.
Hence many are called, but few are chosen.
No power or influence can or ought to be maintained by virtue of the priesthood, only by persuasion, by long-suffering, by gentleness and meekness, and by love unfeigned;
By kindness, and pure knowledge, which shall greatly enlarge the soul without hypocrisy, and without guile…” -D&C 121:39-42
"Family pathology rolls from generation to generation like a fire in the woods, taking down everything in its path until one person, in one generation, has the courage to turn and face the flames." - Terry Real
Thursday May 30, 2024
Thursday May 30, 2024
Show Notes:
Today Kensi Evans is back on the show in Part 2 to share her story of sexual abuse. My friends, it is so insightful, authentic, and informational. If you’ve experienced sexual abuse, or have a loved one who has–which is probably all of us–you won’t want to miss this. She’s such a gem and this episode is packed with life changing perspectives that are going to help you in your own healing journey. You can thank her later, because you’ll want to.
I hope this helps you in your own healing
-Kendra
ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → hello@fulfillmenttherapy.org
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Group → Private FB Group
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests