FULFILLMENT THERAPY - Marriage & Family Therapy, Self Mastery, Self Actualization, Unmet Needs, LDS Parent, Family Connection
Hey, Parents! Welcome to Fulfillment Therapy, your space for healing and personal growth, where you can nurture yourselves to enrich your family life. We know the drill - you’re constantly on the hunt for ways to be the best parent and spouse, but it often feels like there’s barely a moment to catch your breath. Balancing your duties, connecting with your kids, and tackling stress can leave you feeling completely exhausted. Mornings start with the best of intentions, but somehow, they often unravel into a whirlwind of arguments with everyone heading in different directions by the day’s end. It’s a stressful cycle, and it’s clear that something is missing. I’m Kendra, a mother and therapist who’s been there before. I’ve learned that to be the best parent you can be, you must prioritize self-care. When you stop ignoring and neglecting your own needs and well-being, you’ll find that you have more energy and less resentment to offer your family. In our relentless pursuit of being super parents, we often forget about the importance of self development and maintaining good mental health, which can lead to anxiety and depression. Balancing the responsibilities of family life while nurturing your personal growth can be difficult. However, it’s essential to become the best version of yourself to be the best parent and spouse. Fulfillment Therapy is about more than just refining your parenting skills; it’s about unlocking your full potential. It’s about rediscovering your values and faith, and creating a safe haven for both you and your family to flourish. In this podcast, we’ll learn tips on reducing stress, overwhelm, and depression, while showing you how to take better care of yourself without neglecting your family and core values. You’ll discover how to advocate for yourself--without shame--and how to nurture your individual worth in sustainable, healthy ways. By replenishing your own cup and meeting your own unmet needs, you can provide more for your family and, most importantly, yourself. We’ll work toward a life where peace, confidence, and a reduced guilt become the norm. You’ll soon discover that your dream of a balanced, joyful life will become your daily reality. It’s time to model healthy self-care, and tap into your unique gifts and talents to make family life more fulfilling than you ever imagined possible. https://fulfillmenttherapy.org Connect → fulfillment.therapist@gmail.com Facebook → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/fulfillmenttherapy/
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Monday Dec 16, 2024
Monday Dec 16, 2024
Show Notes:
Today my sister and I dive deep into the complexities of faith, doubt, and personal growth. We talk about how to navigate spiritual journeys while maintaining family connections, while hoping to offer valuable insights for parents supporting their children's faith explorations. The conversation touches on finding peace in uncertainty, embracing imperfection in faith, and creating space for questions and doubts. This episode provides a relatable and honest discussion for overwhelmed parents looking to improve their mental health and family relationships.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
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Abbietait (Instagram) Abbie bishofsky/tait (Facebook)
Thursday Dec 12, 2024
Thursday Dec 12, 2024
Show Notes:
Our courses launch Jan. 1, 2025, so put that on your calenders!!
In this episode, we tackle the tough topic of managing challenging child behavior with expert advice on setting boundaries, practicing positive reinforcement, and maintaining calm communication. Learn how these strategies can transform chaos into cooperation while nurturing both your child's growth and your own well-being as a parent.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
Quotes:
Dr. Kevin Leman says, "Rules without relationship lead to rebellion."
Dr. Daniel Siegel's words: "Where attention goes, neural firing flows, and neural connection grows."
Dr. Ross Greene reminds us, "Kids do well if they can."
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Contact → hello@fulfillmenttherapy.org
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy
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Facebook Group → Private FB Group
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests
Monday Dec 09, 2024
Monday Dec 09, 2024
Show Notes:
Hey friends! Today we explore the transformative power of differentiation in family life with returning guest, Kensi Evans. Learn how maintaining your individuality while staying connected to your loved ones can lead to a healthier home and greater personal fulfillment. Discover strategies for setting healthy boundaries, nurturing your passions, and modeling self-care for your children. This conversation is a must-listen for any parent looking to break free from burnout and create a thriving family dynamic.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
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Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → hello@fulfillmenttherapy.org
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Group → Private FB Group
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
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Quotes:
"Differentiation deals with working on one's own self, with controlling self, with becoming a more responsible person, and permitting others to be themselves."
- Murray Bowen
"The real problem is that the partners in a difficult relations are 'no-selfs.' Too much of each self has been absorbed into the relationship." - Roberta M. Gilbert
TIPS:
Get to know yourself: Take a minute to figure out what makes you tick. Why do you get annoyed when your partner leaves dishes in the sink? Understanding your own quirks can help you chill out in tricky situations.
Keep it one-on-one: When you're mad at your partner, don't run to your mom or bestie to vent. Try to work it out with your partner directly. It's tempting to get others on your side, but it usually makes things messier.
Spot the family reruns: Notice if your family has a "greatest hits" of arguments or behaviors. Maybe everyone clams up when things get tense, just like grandma used to do. Spotting these patterns is the first step to changing them.
Be your own emotional DJ: Learn to turn down your own stress levels without relying on others to calm you down. It's like being able to soothe yourself instead of always needing a hug from mom.
Give people space to be themselves: Remember that your partner or kids aren't extensions of you. Let them have their own thoughts and feelings, even if you don't agree. Focus on managing your own reactions instead of trying to control theirs.
Thursday Dec 05, 2024
Thursday Dec 05, 2024
Show Notes:
In this eye-opening episode, relationship and sexuality expert Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins us to discuss the often overlooked impact of trauma on intimate relationships. We explore topics such as recognizing trauma responses, understanding dissociation, and navigating the complex emotions that arise during intimacy. Dr. Finlayson-Fife offers valuable insights and practical strategies for couples looking to heal, reconnect, and build a fulfilling sex life that respects individual healing journeys.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
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Website and Course Info→ https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → fulfillment.therapist@gmail.com
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Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy
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Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests
Jennifer's Links:
www.finlayson-fife.com/courses
@finlaysonfife (Instagram)
@finlaysonfife (Facebook)
Monday Dec 02, 2024
Monday Dec 02, 2024
Show Notes:
In today’s episode, Dr. Harry Cohen delves into the transformative power of addressing pet peeves with a positive mindset. Discover how reframing irritations can lead to personal growth and create a ripple effect of kindness in your relationships. Learn practical strategies for pausing before reacting, choosing words that uplift, and embracing the lessons hidden within everyday annoyances. By practicing grace and gratitude, you can foster a more joyful environment for yourself and those around you, ultimately becoming a beacon of light in a sometimes salty world.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → hello@fulfillmenttherapy.org
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Group → Private FB Group
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests
Dr. Harry Cohen’s Links:
https://bethesunnotthesalt.com
https://www.youtube.com/@BetheSunNottheSalt/videos
https://www.instagram.com/bethesunnotthesalt/
Thursday Nov 28, 2024
Thursday Nov 28, 2024
Show Notes:
In this episode, we dive deep into the world of mental health and wellness with coach and personal trainer Michele Riechman. We learn how to identify and fulfill our unmet needs, overcome challenges, and achieve greater fulfillment in life while balancing family responsibilities. Michele and I share practical tips for self-care, setting boundaries, and breaking free from unhealthy patterns that hold us back. This episode is perfect for overwhelmed parents looking to improve their mental health and teach their families the power of self-improvement.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → fulfillment.therapist@gmail.com
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Group → Private FB Group
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests
Michele Riechman:
https://www.micheleriechman.com/podcast
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/healthy-beyond-40-lose-weight-healthier-habits-healthy/id1674457782
https://www.facebook.com/healthybeyond40/
Monday Nov 25, 2024
Monday Nov 25, 2024
Show Notes:
Today we’ll be learning about the critical role of boundaries in managing holiday stress and improving family dynamics. We explore the nature of boundaries, provide strategies for clear communication, and give easy tips for setting and maintaining limits during family gatherings. Gain the tools to create a more balanced and enjoyable holiday experience, leading to reduced overwhelm and improved personal well-being.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
Family Holiday Boundaries Worksheet
Understanding Boundaries
A boundary is a limit or rule you set for yourself in relationships. It defines what behavior you will or won't accept from others, and how you'll respond. Boundaries are not:
Threats or ultimatums
Ways to control others
Punishments
Boundaries differ from consequences in that:
Boundaries are rules you set for yourself
Consequences are actions you take when boundaries are crossed
Step 1: Identify Your Needs and Limits
Reflect on past family holiday experiences. List 3-5 situations that caused you stress or discomfort:
Step 2: Define Your Boundaries
For each situation, write a clear, simple boundary statement using "I" language:
I will...
I won't...
I need...
I don't want...
It's not okay for...
Step 3: Communicate Your Boundaries
Practice expressing your boundaries calmly and directly. Write how you'll communicate each:
Step 4: Plan for Enforcement
For each boundary, decide on a consequence if it's not respected:
If [boundary] is crossed, I will...
If [boundary] is crossed, I will...
If [boundary] is crossed, I will...
If [boundary] is crossed, I will...
If [boundary] is crossed, I will...
Step 5: Self-Care Strategies
List 3 self-care activities you can do during family gatherings to maintain your boundaries:
Step 6: Positive Affirmations
Write 3 positive affirmations to remind yourself of the importance of your boundaries:
I have the right to...
My needs are important because...
Setting boundaries helps me...
Remember, setting and maintaining boundaries is a skill that takes practice. Be patient with yourself as you implement these changes
Quotes:
"No is a complete sentence." - Anne Lamott
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Contact → hello@fulfillmenttherapy.org
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Facebook Group → Private FB Group
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests
Thursday Nov 21, 2024
Thursday Nov 21, 2024
Show Notes:
Trigger Warning - Domestic Violence
Today I’m talking to my sister about her experiences with divorce, an affair, and an abusive relationship. She talks about the importance of vulnerability in relationships and how childhood wounds influenced her choices and behavior as an adult. Abbie discusses her commitment to deep self-reflection and healing work to break unhealthy patterns and manifest healthier relationships. We hope throughout this conversation that you learn how to to trust you intuition and honor your boundaries.
-Kendra
Abbietait (Instagram) Abbie bishofsky/tait (Facebook)
Domestic Violence Hotline:
800-799-7233
Text BEGIN to 88788
ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → hello@fulfillmenttherapy.org
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Group → Private FB Group
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests
Monday Nov 18, 2024
Monday Nov 18, 2024
Show Notes:
In this episode, former OBGYN Priyanka Menugopal shares her personal journey of losing over 60 pounds and becoming a wellness coach. She discusses the four stress types – fight, flight, freeze, and fawn – and how understanding these can help overwhelmed parents tackle daily challenges and achieve sustainable weight loss. Priyanka offers practical strategies for busy parents to improve their wellness while balancing family life, emphasizing the importance of modeling healthy behaviors for children. Together, we hope to provide valuable insights for parents looking to transform their relationship with stress, food, and overall wellness, ultimately benefiting the entire family.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → hello@fulfillmenttherapy.org
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Group → Private FB Group
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests
Priyanka’s Links:
You can find Priyanka on Instagram here https://www.instagram.com/burnstressloseweight, and her website here https://www.burnstressloseweight.com.
Thursday Nov 14, 2024
Thursday Nov 14, 2024
Show Notes:
Hey friends, I had a tough experience this week that made me reflect on how our differences can sometimes drive us apart, even with the best intentions. A client I was excited to work with decided not to continue with me after finding out about my faith, and it honestly stung. It’s tough when rejection hits, especially when you feel misunderstood, but it reminded me of the importance of staying open to other perspectives. It's not always easy, but fostering understanding instead of conflict, especially in our relationships, is almost always worth the effort!
Enjoy!
-Kendra
Quotes:
"The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function." - F. Scott Fitzgerald
"It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it." - Aristotle
"We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are." - Anaïs Nin
"Be one; and if ye are not one ye are not mine." - Jesus Christ
"There is always much more that unites us than divides us." - Elder David L. Buckner
“My father often reminded me that simply sitting in a pew on Sunday doesn’t make you a good Christian any more than sleeping in a garage makes you a car.“ Elder Buckner https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2024/10/25buckner?lang=eng
ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → hello@fulfillmenttherapy.org
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Group → Private FB Group
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests