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91 | Failing FORWARD Part 2: Transforming Your Broken Roads

Show Notes:
Step into a world of growth and resilience in our upcoming podcast PART 2 with our special guest, Jessica Winder, a Registered Nurse Coach! From Winston Churchill's enthusiasm in stumbling to Robin Sharma's view of failure as hidden growth, we're exploring how setbacks shape us. Join us for a dose of wisdom that not only fortifies individuals but strengthens the bonds within families.🌟🎙️ #FailingForward #GrowthMindset #ResilienceJourney
 
 
Enjoy!
-Kendra
 
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“Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” ― Winston S. Churchill
“Failure’s just growth in wolf’s clothing.” -Robin Sharma, 5 AM Club
“If you fail, never give up because F.A.I.L. means 'first attempt in learning'; End is not the end, in fact, E.N.D. means “Effort Never Dies'…” -Dr. A.P.J.
“The path of least resistance will never make you proud.” -Tony Robbins
Rascal Flatts, Broken Road (this can be applied to every trial - trials are like northern stars leading us to where we’re supposed to go and molding us into who we’re supposed to be)
 
I set out on a narrow way many years ago
Hoping I would find true love along the broken road
But I got lost a time or two
Wiped my brow and kept pushing through
I couldn't see how every sign pointed straight to you
That every long lost dream led me to where you are
Others who broke my heart, they were like Northern stars
Pointing me on my way into your loving arms
This much I know is true
That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you
Yes, He did
I think about the years I spent just passin' through
I'd like to have the time I lost and give it back to you
But you just smile and take my hand
You've been there, you understand
It's all part of a grander plan that is coming true
Every long lost dream led me to where you are
Others who broke my heart, they were like Northern stars
Pointing me on my way into your loving arms
This much I know is true
That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you
Yeah
And now I'm just a-rollin' home
Into my lover's arms
This much I know is true
That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you
That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you
Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, mm, mm
 
Podcast Guest:
Instagram handle @jessicawinder_
Facebook page: Jessica Winder Coaching
Website: jessicawinder.cohere.live

90 | Failing FORWARD: Transforming Your Broken Roads

Show Notes:
Step into a world of growth and resilience in our upcoming podcast with our special guest, Jessica Winder, a Registered Nurse Coach! From Winston Churchill's enthusiasm in stumbling to Robin Sharma's view of failure as hidden growth, we're exploring how setbacks shape us. Join us for a dose of wisdom that not only fortifies individuals but strengthens the bonds within families.🌟🎙️ #FailingForward #GrowthMindset #ResilienceJourney
 
 
Enjoy!
-Kendra
 
ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy 
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → hello@fulfillmenttherapy.org
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy 
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy 
Facebook Group → Private FB Group 
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching 
Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests
 
Costa Rican Retreats 
 
“Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” ― Winston S. Churchill
“Failure’s just growth in wolf’s clothing.” -Robin Sharma, 5 AM Club
“If you fail, never give up because F.A.I.L. means 'first attempt in learning'; End is not the end, in fact, E.N.D. means “Effort Never Dies'…” -Dr. A.P.J.
“The path of least resistance will never make you proud.” -Tony Robbins
Rascal Flatts, Broken Road (this can be applied to every trial - trials are like northern stars leading us to where we’re supposed to go and molding us into who we’re supposed to be)
 
I set out on a narrow way many years ago
Hoping I would find true love along the broken road
But I got lost a time or two
Wiped my brow and kept pushing through
I couldn't see how every sign pointed straight to you
That every long lost dream led me to where you are
Others who broke my heart, they were like Northern stars
Pointing me on my way into your loving arms
This much I know is true
That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you
Yes, He did
I think about the years I spent just passin' through
I'd like to have the time I lost and give it back to you
But you just smile and take my hand
You've been there, you understand
It's all part of a grander plan that is coming true
Every long lost dream led me to where you are
Others who broke my heart, they were like Northern stars
Pointing me on my way into your loving arms
This much I know is true
That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you
Yeah
And now I'm just a-rollin' home
Into my lover's arms
This much I know is true
That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you
That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you
Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, mm, mm
 
Podcast Guest:
Instagram handle @jessicawinder_
Facebook page: Jessica Winder Coaching
Website: jessicawinder.cohere.live

89 | When Shadows Linger: Supporting Your Spouse Through Mental Health Challenges

Show Notes:
Today my husband is back on with me and we’re talking about supporting your spouse through mental health challenges. We’ll discuss how your spouse’s mental health journey can be a chance to reshape your love, replacing fear with understanding and turning isolation into connection. We'll talk about how marriages aren't immune to mental health challenges but can be a safe space for healing and growth, creating understanding and compassion between partners. If you are wondering how to show up better for a loved one struggling with depression, anxiety, or any other mental health challenge, today’s episode will help you better understand what you do in those shadow lands of life. 
Enjoy!
-Kendra
 
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Supporting Your Spouse Through Mental Health Challenges
“A spouse's mental health journey is an opportunity for couples to redefine love, replacing fear with understanding and isolation with connection." - Dr. Terry Real
"Marriage isn't a sanctuary from mental health challenges; it's a safe space where healing and understanding can flourish." - Dr. David Schnarch
"In a marriage, mental health challenges aren't roadblocks; they're detours that lead to deeper understanding and compassion." - Dr. John Gottman
"In the dance of marriage, sometimes one partner takes the lead in supporting mental health, but both must be willing to move to the rhythm of understanding." - Dr. Harville Hendrix

88 | Parental Renewal: Breaking Free from Winter's Grip to Reset & Restore

Show Notes:
Ever feel like life's on fast forward, leaving you worn out and uninspired? Join us as we unravel the secrets of resetting and restoring. Imagine taking a break not as a luxury but a necessity, like a deep breath for your soul. Today we’ll explore how these moments of pause can breathe new life into your goals, enhance creativity, and, most importantly, prevent burnout. It's not just self-care; it's a roadmap to a more fulfilling, joyous life. Listen in to discover the art of pressing pause for a more vibrant you!
Enjoy!
-Kendra
 
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Resetting & Restoring Tips
Physical Renewal: What It Looks Like: Engaging in activities that promote physical health, such as adequate sleep, regular exercise, and a balanced diet.
Purposeful Leisure: Engaging in activities purely for enjoyment and relaxation, whether reading a book, listening to music, or pursuing hobbies.
Disconnecting from Routine: Taking breaks from digital devices, unplugging from work-related stress, and spending time in nature.
Emotional Replenishment: Spending time with loved ones, pursuing hobbies, and engaging in activities that bring joy and fulfillment.
Mental Rejuvenation: Taking breaks from work, practicing mindfulness or meditation, and engaging in activities that stimulate mental clarity and creativity.
 
1. Recharge and Rejuvenate: Taking a break allows you to recharge both mentally and physically, providing the energy needed for personal growth. 
“No matter how strong or strong-willed you are, you cannot live a stressful, maxed-out life without that pace eventually biting you in the butt. It is necessary to take breaks, set parameters, and be kind to yourself if you want to continue making an impact in your little corner of the world.” ― Cynthia Mendenhall
“Is there a place you can go to break away for a little while? If you haven't yet built your tree house, it's never too late to start.” ― Gina Greenlee
 
2. Gain Fresh Perspective: Stepping back from your routine allows you to see things from a different angle. 
"When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change." - Wayne Dyer
"Stepping back and reflecting is not a retreat; it's a chance to advance with a new perspective." - Unknown
 
3. Reflect on Goals and Values: Resetting provides an opportunity for introspection.
 
"In quiet reflection, we can truly understand the depth of our goals and the authenticity of our values." - Unknown
 
"True wisdom lies in the art of self-reflection; it's the compass that aligns our goals with our values." - Vironika Tugaleva
 
Taking a pause lets you reassess your goals and align them with your values.
 
4. Stress Reduction: Stress can hinder personal growth. A break helps alleviate stress, allowing for a more focused and resilient mindset.
 
 Dr. Seuss captures this: "Sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simple."
 
"Stress is the noise; silence is the remedy. Take a break, and let personal growth flourish in the stillness." - Amit Ray
 
5. Enhance Creativity: Creativity flourishes in a rested mind. Steve Jobs emphasized the link between creativity and taking a step back: 
 
"Creativity is just connecting things. When you ask creative people how they did something, they feel a little guilty because they didn't really do it, they just saw something."
 
6. Prevent Burnout: Continuous, unyielding effort can lead to burnout. A pause helps prevent this. Arianna Huffington advocates for balance, stating,
 
 "We think, mistakenly, that success is the result of the amount of time we put in at work, instead of the quality of time we put in."
 
"Preventing burnout is a conscious choice to pause, recharge, and let the embers of enthusiasm glow again." - Arianna Huffington

87 | February Flames: Boosting Intimacy & Fulfillment for Couples

Show Notes:
Discover the keys to a more vibrant and fulfilling relationship with these expert tips on creating a safe space for open communication about needs and desires. Dive into the significance of quality couple time, non-sexual physical touch, and truth-infused communication, providing a playful guide to deepen intimacy and spark lasting connection in your relationship. Tune in to elevate your relationship game and experience a whole new level of joy and closeness!
Enjoy!
-Kendra
 
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86 | Love Leap: Simple Steps to Deepen Your Marriage Connection This Month

Show Notes:
Hey, lovebirds! Ready for some relationship wisdom for the month of love? In this episode, Kensi and I share game-changing tips for a stronger connection. Learn the art of gratitude, personal growth vibes, and how to navigate conflicts like a pro. Whether you're a rookie in love or a seasoned duo, these tips will level up your relationship game. Tune in and get ready to level up your marriage AND your love connection!
Enjoy!
-Kendra
 
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Here are 2 FREE Worksheet on how to improve apologies and how steps on how to resolve conflict in your relationship. 
 
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85 | Healing from Sexual Abuse: How Parents Can Help Children & the Family Recover

Show Notes:
Today we're discussing what to do when your child is sexually abused. Learn tips and tools on how to have difficult conversations for optimal healing for both you and your child. Discover how to help them open up and what you can do to offer the most support during an emotional time for both of you. Learn what your child needs most from you, and how to deliver it appropriately. 
-Kendra
 
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Sexual Abuse Tips:
Seek Professional Help:
 
Consult with a mental health professional, therapist, or counselor experienced in child abuse and trauma.
Involve a child protection agency or law enforcement as necessary.
 
Create a Safe Environment:
 
Ensure the child is in a safe and supportive environment.
Establish a stable routine to provide a sense of security.
 
Open Communication:
 
Encourage open and honest communication. Allow the child to express their feelings at their own pace.
Use age-appropriate language when discussing difficult topics.
 
Therapeutic Interventions:
 
Engage in play therapy, art therapy, or other therapeutic modalities to help the child express themselves.
Consider family therapy to strengthen relationships and support the healing process.
 
Empowerment and Autonomy:
 
Empower the child by involving them in decisions that affect them when appropriate.
Reinforce a sense of autonomy and control over their body and choices.
 
Educate and Normalize:
 
Educate the child about safe and unsafe touches.
Normalize seeking help and talking about difficult experiences.
 
Support Networks:
 
Connect with support networks, such as support groups for survivors of abuse and their families.
Ensure that the child has positive role models and supportive adults in their life.
Legal Involvement:
 
If applicable, cooperate with legal authorities to ensure the safety of the child and hold the abuser accountable.
 
Self-Care for Caregivers:
 
Caregivers need support too. Seek counseling or support groups to cope with the emotional impact of helping a child heal from abuse.

84 | Navigating Leadership Diseases for Family Fulfillment

Show Notes:
Hey, listeners! Today, we're unpacking Pope Francis's talk on leadership health. No, it's not just for Vatican VIPs. We're talking about everyday leadership diseases – from arrogance to indifference. How does this apply to your family or personal leadership style, you may be wondering? Well, my friends. You’ll soon see why AND you’ll want to thank me. Or the Pope, or John Maxwell, who shared this in his book. Tune in for some oober helpful insights and an incredibly helpful self-check, and let's learn how to improve our leadership in ALL our spaces!
Enjoy!
-Kendra
 
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15 Diseases of Leadership, by Gary Hamel
 
Developing the Leader Within You 2.0: Maxwell, John C.: 9780718074081: Amazon.com: Books
 
1. The disease of thinking we are immortal, immune, or downright indispensable, [and therefore] neglecting the need for regular check-ups. A leadership team which is not self-critical, which does not keep up with things, which does not seek to be more fit, is a sick body. A simple visit to the cemetery might help us see the names of many people who thought they were immortal, immune, and indispensable! It is the disease of those who turn into lords and masters, who think of themselves as above others and not at their service. It is the pathology of power and comes from a superiority complex, from a narcissism which passionately gazes at its own image and does not see the face of others, especially the weakest and those most in need. The antidote to this plague is humility; to say heartily, “I am merely a servant. I have only done what was my duty.”
2. Another disease is excessive busyness. It is found in those who immerse themselves in work and inevitably neglect to “rest a while.” Neglecting needed rest leads to stress and agitation. A time of rest, for those who have completed their work, is necessary, obligatory and should be taken seriously: by spending time with one’s family and respecting holidays as moments for recharging.
3. Then there is the disease of mental and [emotional] “petrification.” It is found in leaders who have a heart of stone, the “stiff-necked;” in those who in the course of time lose their interior serenity, alertness and daring, and hide under a pile of papers, turning into paper pushers and not men and women of compassion. It is dangerous to lose the human sensitivity that enables us to weep with those who weep and to rejoice with those who rejoice! Because as time goes on, our hearts grow hard and become incapable of loving all those around us. Being a humane leader means having the sentiments of humility and unselfishness, of detachment and generosity.
4. The disease of excessive planning and of functionalism. When a leader plans everything down to the last detail and believes that with perfect planning things will fall into place, he or she becomes an accountant or an office manager. Things need to be prepared well, but without ever falling into the temptation of trying to eliminate spontaneity and serendipity, which is always more flexible than any human planning. We contract this disease because it is easy and comfortable to settle in our own sedentary and unchanging ways.
5. The disease of poor coordination. Once leaders lose a sense of community among themselves, the body loses its harmonious functioning and its equilibrium; it then becomes an orchestra that produces noise: its members do not work together and lose the spirit of camaraderie and teamwork. When the foot says to the arm: ‘I don’t need you,’ or the hand says to the head, ‘I’m in charge,’ they create discomfort and parochialism.
6. There is also a sort of “leadership Alzheimer’s disease.” It consists in losing the memory of those who nurtured, mentored and supported us in our own journeys. We see this in those who have lost the memory of their encounters with the great leaders who inspired them; in those who are completely caught up in the present moment, in their passions, whims and obsessions; in those who build walls and routines around themselves, and thus become more and more the slaves of idols carved by their own hands.
7. The disease of rivalry and vainglory. When appearances, our perks, and our titles become the primary object in life, we forget our fundamental duty as leaders—to “do nothing from selfishness or conceit but in humility count others better than ourselves.” [As leaders, we must] look not only to [our] own interests, but also to the interests of others.
8. The disease of existential schizophrenia. This is the disease of those who live a double life, the fruit of that hypocrisy typical of the mediocre and of a progressive emotional emptiness which no [accomplishment or] title can fill. It is a disease which often strikes those who are no longer directly in touch with customers and “ordinary” employees, and restrict themselves to bureaucratic matters, thus losing contact with reality, with concrete people.
9. The disease of gossiping, grumbling, and back-biting. This is a grave illness which begins simply, perhaps even in small talk, and takes over a person, making him become a “sower of weeds” and in many cases, a cold-blooded killer of the good name of colleagues. It is the disease of cowardly persons who lack the courage to speak out directly, but instead speak behind other people’s backs. Let us be on our guard against the terrorism of gossip!
10. The disease of idolizing superiors. This is the disease of those who court their superiors in the hope of gaining their favor. They are victims of careerism and opportunism; they honor persons [rather than the larger mission of the organization]. They think only of what they can get and not of what they should give; small-minded persons, unhappy and inspired only by their own lethal selfishness. Superiors themselves can be affected by this disease, when they try to obtain the submission, loyalty and psychological dependency of their subordinates, but the end result is unhealthy complicity.
11. The disease of indifference to others. This is where each leader thinks only of himself or herself, and loses the sincerity and warmth of [genuine] human relationships. This can happen in many ways: When the most knowledgeable person does not put that knowledge at the service of less knowledgeable colleagues, when you learn something and then keep it to yourself rather than sharing it in a helpful way with others; when out of jealousy or deceit you take joy in seeing others fall instead of helping them up and encouraging them.
12. The disease of a downcast face. You see this disease in those glum and dour persons who think that to be serious you have to put on a face of melancholy and severity, and treat others—especially those we consider our inferiors—with rigor, brusqueness and arrogance. In fact, a show of severity and sterile pessimism are frequently symptoms of fear and insecurity. A leader must make an effort to be courteous, serene, enthusiastic and joyful, a person who transmits joy everywhere he goes. A happy heart radiates an infectious joy: it is immediately evident! So a leader should never lose that joyful, humorous and even self-deprecating spirit which makes people amiable even in difficult situations. How beneficial is a good dose of humor! …
13. The disease of hoarding. This occurs when a leader tries to fill an existential void in his or her heart by accumulating material goods, not out of need but only in order to feel secure. The fact is that we are not able to bring material goods with us when we leave this life, since “the winding sheet does not have pockets” and all our treasures will never be able to fill that void; instead, they will only make it deeper and more demanding. Accumulating goods only burdens and inexorably slows down the journey!
14. The disease of closed circles, where belonging to a clique becomes more powerful than our shared identity. This disease too always begins with good intentions, but with the passing of time it enslaves its members and becomes a cancer which threatens the harmony of the organization and causes immense evil, especially to those we treat as outsiders. “Friendly fire” from our fellow soldiers, is the most insidious danger. It is the evil which strikes from within. As it says in the bible, “Every kingdom divided against itself is laid waste.”
15. Lastly: the disease of extravagance and self-exhibition. This happens when a leader turns his or her service into power, and uses that power for material gain, or to acquire even greater power. This is the disease of persons who insatiably try to accumulate power and to this end are ready to slander, defame and discredit others; who put themselves on display to show that they are more capable than others. This disease does great harm because it leads people to justify the use of any means whatsoever to attain their goal, often in the name of justice and transparency! Here I remember a leader who used to call journalists to tell and invent private and confidential matters involving his colleagues. The only thing he was concerned about was being able to see himself on the front page, since this made him feel powerful and glamorous, while causing great harm to others and to the organization. (The 15 Diseases of Leadership, According to Pope Francis, by Gary Hamel, April 14, 2015).

83 | Effective Discipline: Get Your Kids to Listen & STOP Fighting

Show Notes:
Curious about the ultimate parenting playbook? Wondering how to navigate the fine line between being too passive or too aggressive in your disciplining? 🤔 Join us in our newest episode to uncover the secrets to effective discipline, more effective communication, and teaching valuable life lessons. 🌈🚀 Get ready to transform your parenting approach and enjoy a more peaceful family life with simple and easy steps! #ParentingWins #DisciplineDecoded
Enjoy!
-Kendra
 
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Positive discipline strategies for every family
 
1. Ask WHY your child misbehaved and when we know why, we can get an idea of what we need to do so it doesn’t happen over and over again. 2. What is the lesson I want my child to learn here? (the whole point of discipline is to teach-that’s what it means). 3. What is the most effective way to teach that lesson? Tina Payne Bryson, PhD
 
1. Punishment means “hurt” but discipline to instruct and help. Don’t expect more than they can do developmentally!
2. Talk as a family about expectation and rules and why these are important (your family values) so they understand the reason for the rules and get their input and buy in so they’re less likely to resist
3. Give transition or time warnings. Give them gentle reminders. Touch them softly, look them in the eye, talk softly. 
4. Remember that everyone has bad days. They’re still learning. Wait until later if that is when teaching and instructing will be more effective then. (then explore: see it through their eyes and listen, explain: review the rule and ask them why was have that rule in our family, and empower: recap by showing empathy, reminding them of what they said about why we have the rule, and then ask what do you think we should do to find a solution. They practice being responsible. Do this one on one. Important learning happens when you come back to it, so come back to it. Also, tell them that you’ll try what you both discuss, but then say it doesn’t happen, then as the adult, you’ll need to intervene when they’re not complying)
-Dr. Justin Coulson (positive discipline strategies)
This creates more trust, a stronger relationship, and they’re more likely to listen to your guidance. It will create a happier and more peaceful family life, and a more fulfilling one.

82 | Love Connection: Creating the Sweet Spot Between Independence and Interdependence

Show Notes:
Today, we're tackling the relationship rollercoaster since we’re coming up on February, our LOVE month! Join the ride as we talk about the ins and outs of healthy connections and the dangers of being too clingy, too distant, or stuck in a codependent loop. Hear tips from relationship gurus like Esther Perel, the Gottmans, and Sue Johnson and discover the secrets to a happy and balanced partnership. Get ready for a dose of wisdom and a lot of transformative self discovery – in today's guide to leveling up your love game! 🚀💖
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-Kendra
 
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82 | Love Connection: Creating the Sweet Spot Between Independence and Interdependence
Unhealthy dependence in a relationship refers to a situation where one or both partners excessively rely on each other to meet emotional, psychological, or practical needs. This dependency can lead to an imbalance of power, a loss of individual identity, and difficulties in maintaining personal well-being. Signs of unhealthy dependence may include emotional reliance, fear of autonomy, isolation from others, and the neglect of self-care. It often hinders personal growth and can strain the relationship dynamics, requiring attention and efforts to establish a healthier and more balanced connection.
Unhealthy independence in a relationship is characterized by excessive self-reliance, emotional detachment, and a reluctance to share vulnerabilities or needs with a partner. It may involve prioritizing personal space and autonomy to an extent that hinders emotional intimacy and connection. Unhealthy independence can lead to feelings of isolation, a lack of collaboration, and difficulties in building a supportive and mutually fulfilling partnership. Striking a balance between individuality and interdependence is crucial for maintaining a healthy relationship, where both partners feel connected and valued without sacrificing personal autonomy.
Codependency is a dysfunctional relationship dynamic where one person excessively relies on the other for emotional support, validation, and a sense of identity, while the other may feel a need to be needed. It often involves enabling behavior and can lead to an imbalance of power and unhealthy emotional reliance.
On the other hand, interdependence in a relationship is a healthy and balanced dynamic where both partners maintain their individuality and autonomy while also relying on each other for emotional support, collaboration, and shared decision-making. In interdependence, there is a mutual give-and-take, and both individuals contribute to the relationship's growth and well-being.
 
"Balance autonomy and connection; healthy interdependence requires maintaining a sense of self within the relationship." -Esther Perel
"Embrace emotional responsiveness; the dance of emotional connection creates a secure bond in interdependent relationships." -Sue Johnson
"Nurture your friendship; a strong friendship is the foundation of healthy interdependence."-John and Julie Gottman
"Build shared meaning; having common goals and values strengthens interdependence."-John and Julie Gottman
"Happy marriages are based on a deep friendship, mutual respect, shared values, and realistic expectations." -John and Julie Gottman