FULFILLMENT THERAPY - Marriage & Family Therapy, Self Mastery, Self Actualization, Unmet Needs, LDS Parent, Family Connection
Hey, Parents! Welcome to Fulfillment Therapy, your space for healing and personal growth, where you can nurture yourselves to enrich your family life. We know the drill - you’re constantly on the hunt for ways to be the best parent and spouse, but it often feels like there’s barely a moment to catch your breath. Balancing your duties, connecting with your kids, and tackling stress can leave you feeling completely exhausted. Mornings start with the best of intentions, but somehow, they often unravel into a whirlwind of arguments with everyone heading in different directions by the day’s end. It’s a stressful cycle, and it’s clear that something is missing. I’m Kendra, a mother and therapist who’s been there before. I’ve learned that to be the best parent you can be, you must prioritize self-care. When you stop ignoring and neglecting your own needs and well-being, you’ll find that you have more energy and less resentment to offer your family. In our relentless pursuit of being super parents, we often forget about the importance of self development and maintaining good mental health, which can lead to anxiety and depression. Balancing the responsibilities of family life while nurturing your personal growth can be difficult. However, it’s essential to become the best version of yourself to be the best parent and spouse. Fulfillment Therapy is about more than just refining your parenting skills; it’s about unlocking your full potential. It’s about rediscovering your values and faith, and creating a safe haven for both you and your family to flourish. In this podcast, we’ll learn tips on reducing stress, overwhelm, and depression, while showing you how to take better care of yourself without neglecting your family and core values. You’ll discover how to advocate for yourself--without shame--and how to nurture your individual worth in sustainable, healthy ways. By replenishing your own cup and meeting your own unmet needs, you can provide more for your family and, most importantly, yourself. We’ll work toward a life where peace, confidence, and a reduced guilt become the norm. You’ll soon discover that your dream of a balanced, joyful life will become your daily reality. It’s time to model healthy self-care, and tap into your unique gifts and talents to make family life more fulfilling than you ever imagined possible. https://fulfillmenttherapy.org Connect → fulfillment.therapist@gmail.com Facebook → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/fulfillmenttherapy/
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Monday Sep 02, 2024
Monday Sep 02, 2024
Show Notes:
Did you know that in many ways, the world is better than ever despite what we hear all around us? In today’s episode, we explore surprising and uplifting statistics about global improvements, offering parents insights to foster a positive and hopeful outlook in their families.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
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Quote:
"The world can only get better if we understand how it is. We must learn to see the world based on facts, not ideology or pessimism." - Hans Rosling
Tips:
**Challenging Beliefs and Shifting Mindsets:**
Understanding these statistics is a first step toward a more positive outlook, but how do we change our deeply ingrained beliefs?
**Seek Out Positive News:** Make a habit of looking for positive news stories. Websites like Gapminder and others that focus on global progress can be great resources.(The Guardian, BBC News, Flipboard, Digg, New York Times)
**Question Negativity:** When you encounter negative news, ask yourself if it represents the overall trend or just an isolated incident. Remember, bad news often makes headlines because it's rare, not because it's common.
**Educate Yourself:** Use resources like Gapminder to educate yourself about the true state of the world. Knowledge can combat fear and misinformation.
**Focus on Solutions:** Instead of dwelling on problems, look at what is being done to solve them. Many organizations and individuals are working tirelessly to make the world a better place.
Keep a gratitude journal. Each day, write down three things you're thankful for. This simple practice can help shift your focus from what's wrong to what's right.
Thursday Aug 29, 2024
Thursday Aug 29, 2024
Show Notes:
Today we’re talking about the complexities of body shame and eating disorders to discover how healthy your relationship is with food. You’ll learn how to support loved ones who may be struggling, and begin your journey towards self-love and body acceptance for yourselves and your children, ultimately creating greater happiness and confidence in your life.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → fulfillment.therapist@gmail.com
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Group → Private FB Group
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests
Quotes:
"Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change." - Dr. Brene Brown
"eating disorders are not just about food; they're about coping mechanisms for deeper emotional pain." - Dr. Anita Johnston
"When we eat mindfully, we begin to trust our body's signals of hunger and fullness, leading to a more peaceful relationship with food." Dr. Michelle May
"Self-compassion involves treating ourselves with the same kindness and care that we would offer to a good friend." - Dr. Kristin Neff
"When parents provide structure and support around meals, children learn to trust their internal hunger and fullness cues, leading to a healthier relationship with food." - Dr. Ellyn Satter
Monday Aug 26, 2024
Monday Aug 26, 2024
Show Notes:
As the new school year approaches, it's time to shift from summer spontaneity to structured living. Today we’ll explore practical steps for creating a structured back-to-school routine that creates family fulfillment and success, using consistency, communication, and self-care. Join us to learn how to transform chaos into calm and unlock the power of structured living for a thriving school year ahead.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → fulfillment.therapist@gmail.com
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Group → Private FB Group
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests
Quotes:
"Success is the sum of small efforts repeated day in and day out." - Robert Collier
"Predictable routines provide children with a sense of security and help them develop self-discipline and responsibility." - Dr. Emily Smith
"Focus on progress, not perfection, and celebrate the small victories along the way. Building resilience and perseverance in children is a journey, not a destination." - Sarah Johnson
"Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful." - Albert Schweitzer
Thursday Aug 22, 2024
Thursday Aug 22, 2024
Show Notes:
Many parents wonder why their children seem less emotionally resilient and lack grit compared to previous generations, despite being provided with more growth opportunities and better circumstances. So today, we'll explore the challenges of raising emotionally resilient children in the digital age, focusing on the detrimental impacts of excessive peer communication and practical strategies to nurture greater resilience and well-being.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
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Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → fulfillment.therapist@gmail.com
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy
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Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
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Article on Teen Texting
Podcast Episode on Anxiety & Cognitive Distortion
Podcast Episode on Fostering Emotional Resilience
Podcast Episode on A Guest's Journey Through Anxiety
Monday Aug 19, 2024
Monday Aug 19, 2024
Show Notes:
In just a few days, I’ll have my 19th anniversary. Are you curious about what my husband has learned in 19 years of marriage, combined with his advanced degrees and training in couples therapy, mental health, and professional experience? Well, in celebration of our anniversary, my husband will share his biggest takeaways that will help you maximize your marriage and help you celebrate your own successes.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → fulfillment.therapist@gmail.com
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Group → Private FB Group
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests
Quotes/Tips:
“For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also” - Luke 12:34
Reach out for emotional help to trusted sources
Have family council
Keep your spaces scared
Know yourself before you look for someone else
Seek divine guidance
Support your spouse
Ask for what you need
Joel Nielson
joel.nielson@gmail.com
Thursday Aug 15, 2024
Thursday Aug 15, 2024
Show Notes:
In just a few days, I’ll have my 19th anniversary. Are you curious about what I’ve learned in 19 years of marriage, combined with my advanced degrees and training in couples therapy, mental health, and professional experience? Well, in celebration of my anniversary, I will share my biggest takeaways that will help you maximize your marriage and help you celebrate your own successes.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → fulfillment.therapist@gmail.com
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Group → Private FB Group
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests
Quotes:
Apologizing doesn't always mean you're wrong; it means you value your relationship more than your ego. - Mark Matthews
The results you achieve will be in direct proportion to the effort you apply. - Denis Waitley
Things I’ve Learned:
Owning your side of the street in a relationship is not about blame; it's about taking responsibility for your actions and emotions.
In marriage, emotional processing doesn't always sync, but understanding and respecting each other's timelines fosters empathy and connection.
Advocating for yourself in a marriage isn't selfish; it's essential for maintaining your sense of self and preserving the integrity of the relationship.
True freedom in marriage comes from releasing societal, cultural, and familial expectations and embracing authenticity and intuition.
Boundaries in marriage create space for love and respect to flourish while protecting individual needs and identities.
Healing your inner child in marriage breaks the cycle of generational pain, fostering growth and understanding within the family unit.
Meeting your own needs in marriage isn't selfish; it's an act of self-love that strengthens the foundation of the relationship.
Monday Aug 12, 2024
Monday Aug 12, 2024
Show Notes:
In this episode, Krista Naldjian offers invaluable insights into improving financial wellness, addressing common pitfalls, sharing simple ways to teach children about money. Through her experiences and client stories, she speaks to the transformative power of financial improvement in fostering mental and emotional health, strengthening families, and ultimately finding greater fulfillment in life.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
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Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → fulfillment.therapist@gmail.com
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Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
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Krista Naldjian
Money Mindful Moms
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Quote:
“I used to be afraid of failing at something that really mattered to me, but now I'm more afraid of succeeding at things that don't matter.” ― Bob Goff
Thursday Aug 08, 2024
Thursday Aug 08, 2024
Show Notes:
Today we'll explore the transformative potential of effective family councils in nurturing healthy relationships, increasing open communication, and aligning shared values and goals. These strategies have been game-changing for me and I hope they will be for you too.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → fulfillment.therapist@gmail.com
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Group → Private FB Group
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests
Quotes:
"Family councils serve as a valuable tool for nurturing healthy relationships, fostering mutual respect, and strengthening family bonds through meaningful dialogue and shared decision-making." - Dr. Sue Johnson
"By creating a space for open communication and collaborative decision-making, family councils empower parents and children alike to contribute their perspectives, preferences, and priorities, ultimately leading to greater harmony and happiness within the family." - Dr. Dan Siegel
"By embracing collaboration as a core value and integrating it into every aspect of organizational culture, businesses can harness the full potential of their workforce and achieve transformative outcomes." - Peter Senge
“Collaboration is multiplication.” -John C. Maxwell
Tips for Family Counsels:
Establish Clear Goals: Define the purpose and objectives of the council, whether it's improving communication, making joint decisions, or fostering a sense of belonging within the family unit.
Create a Safe and Open Environment: Encourage open dialogue, active listening, and mutual respect during council meetings to make sure every family member feels comfortable expressing their thoughts and opinions.
Set Regular Meeting Times: Schedule consistent meetings to review goals or the agenda, discuss concerns, and brainstorm solutions collaboratively. Consistency helps establish routines and reinforces the importance of communication within the family.
Rotate Leadership Roles: Assign rotating leadership roles for family members to facilitate meetings, set agendas, and ensure that everyone has an opportunity to contribute and take responsibility.
Use Visual Aids and Tools: Utilize visual aids such as charts, calendars, or decision-making frameworks to help visualize goals, track progress, and facilitate discussions on important family matters. I do this with my clients. We track growth because it’s motivating when we see progress.
Implement Decision-Making Processes: Establish clear decision-making processes to make sure all voices are heard and listened to.
Reflect and Adapt: Regularly evaluate the effectiveness of the council and processes, ask for feedback from family members, and make adjustments as needed to improve communication and collaboration.
Monday Aug 05, 2024
Monday Aug 05, 2024
Show Notes:
Today we’re exploring people-pleasing and how it affects our authenticity and family dynamics. You’ll learn 5 actionable steps to break free from the cycle and teach your family by example. Together we'll create a life where you can let go of what others think and be your best self.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → fulfillment.therapist@gmail.com
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Group → Private FB Group
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests
Podcast on Assertiveness: 09 | Assertiveness: What I Learned from a Cultural View Shift & 3 Communication Styles Every Person Needs to Understand in Order to Succeed | FULFILLMENT THERAPY
Assertiveness Worksheet: Assertiveness Infographic
Boundary Exploration: Boundaries Extended Worksheet.pdf
Quotes:
"People pleasing is like a silent killer of authenticity, eroding away at your true self." - Brené Brown
"People-pleasing is a self-destructive and soul-suffocating habit that hooks you into always putting others’ needs before your own." - Michelle Pfeiffer
"You are not required to set yourself on fire to keep others warm." - Unknown
"People-pleasing is not about kindness; it's about trying to control what others think of you." - Bryant McGill
"People-pleasing isn’t just about being nice, it’s about seeking external validation to feel worthy." - Brené Brown
"When you say 'yes' to others, make sure you are not saying 'no' to yourself." - Paulo Coelho
"The moment you stop worrying about what others think about you, is the moment you start being yourself." - Unknown
Today I’m going to give you 5 tips to focus on. Do these 5 things as much as you can, and remember that it won’t be an overnight solution, but it will be the beginning of a beautiful change!
Self-awareness. Journal or leave voice memos. Get a counselor. You’ll need to explore your relationships and how you’re making it a one up or one down relationship. For now, just notice them, document them, and explore them through reflection.
Assertiveness training & Boundary Setting: Watch some YouTube videos, or listen to episode 9 on Assertiveness. Do the worksheets I created. The link for the assertiveness worksheet and boundary setting is the show notes too. Set boundaries to protect your time, energy, and emotional well-being.
Self-compassion: Cultivate self-compassion and recognize that your worth is not dependent on others' approval. This takes time. Practice 1% by not agreeing right away and saying no in a safe space. Come up with your own mantra to remind you to have greater self-compassion or to let go of people-pleasing (I am safe to share my own wants and needs. I will advocate for myself and remember that I’m of equal worth and value as those around me)
Authenticity: Reconnect with your authentic self by expressing your true thoughts, feelings, and values without fear of judgment or rejection. This takes practice. Start by saying know 3 times this week.
Reframing beliefs: Challenge distorted beliefs about the importance of pleasing others and develop more balanced perspectives on relationships and self-worth.I will say no more often. In fact, say no first and then make a case to yourself for saying yes.
Thursday Aug 01, 2024
Thursday Aug 01, 2024
Show Notes:
Today you’ll learn actionable tools to start improving your relationship with yourself and learn greater awareness, validation, normalization, and supportive self talk in order cultivate greater self-compassion with fellow Therapist, Denise Winkel! Her simple tools are vital when it comes to progressing and creating greater life fulfillment beginning today!
Enjoy!
-Kendra
ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → fulfillment.therapist@gmail.com
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy
Facebook Group → Private FB Group
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests
Denise Winkel
Facebook Community → https://www.facebook.com/DeniseWinkelCounseling/
Psychology Today →
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/denise-winkel-nampa-id/1195785