FULFILLMENT THERAPY - Marriage & Family Therapy, Self Mastery, Self Actualization, Unmet Needs, LDS Parent, Family Connection
Hey, Parents! Welcome to Fulfillment Therapy, your space for healing and personal growth, where you can nurture yourselves to enrich your family life. We know the drill - you’re constantly on the hunt for ways to be the best parent and spouse, but it often feels like there’s barely a moment to catch your breath. Balancing your duties, connecting with your kids, and tackling stress can leave you feeling completely exhausted. Mornings start with the best of intentions, but somehow, they often unravel into a whirlwind of arguments with everyone heading in different directions by the day’s end. It’s a stressful cycle, and it’s clear that something is missing. I’m Kendra, a mother and therapist who’s been there before. I’ve learned that to be the best parent you can be, you must prioritize self-care. When you stop ignoring and neglecting your own needs and well-being, you’ll find that you have more energy and less resentment to offer your family. In our relentless pursuit of being super parents, we often forget about the importance of self development and maintaining good mental health, which can lead to anxiety and depression. Balancing the responsibilities of family life while nurturing your personal growth can be difficult. However, it’s essential to become the best version of yourself to be the best parent and spouse. Fulfillment Therapy is about more than just refining your parenting skills; it’s about unlocking your full potential. It’s about rediscovering your values and faith, and creating a safe haven for both you and your family to flourish. In this podcast, we’ll learn tips on reducing stress, overwhelm, and depression, while showing you how to take better care of yourself without neglecting your family and core values. You’ll discover how to advocate for yourself--without shame--and how to nurture your individual worth in sustainable, healthy ways. By replenishing your own cup and meeting your own unmet needs, you can provide more for your family and, most importantly, yourself. We’ll work toward a life where peace, confidence, and a reduced guilt become the norm. You’ll soon discover that your dream of a balanced, joyful life will become your daily reality. It’s time to model healthy self-care, and tap into your unique gifts and talents to make family life more fulfilling than you ever imagined possible. https://fulfillmenttherapy.org Connect → fulfillment.therapist@gmail.com Facebook → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/fulfillmenttherapy/
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57 minutes ago
57 minutes ago
Show Notes:
Join us for a heartfelt conversation with Shan Wright, a fellow parent and podcaster, as we explore holistic parenting tips and her inspiring journey to prioritize whole health for her family. Through Shan's candid experiences, we'll discover actionable insights on nurturing a positive mindset and proactive approach to overcome challenges and find fulfillment in parenthood.Tune in as we share stories, laughter, and wisdom to support each other on this crazy journey of increasing fulfillment in life and parenthood.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → fulfillment.therapist@gmail.com
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
Chat → 1-855-542-8008 *Get questions answered before buying
Save on the $600 off the flash sale! Apply the code SAVE600 to get $600 off our last flash sale for the Costa Rican Retreat when you sign up on FulfillmentTherapy.org.
Our Adventure & Personal Growth Retreat includes:
All-Inclusive 6 Day & 6 Night Stay in Costa Rica
Luxurious Private Villa overlooking Bay
Enjoy Latin Cuisine as our Private Chef prepares 3 meals / Day
& Drinks at our Unlimited Open Bar (fancy non-alcoholic drinks included)
Airport shuttle To & From Included
Professional Therapists / Coaches & Expert Team
Women’s, Men’s, and Couples Retreat at Neighboring Villas
5 Specially Created Fulfillment Meditation Sessions
Immersive Training to Elevate your Relationships & Personal Life
Transformative Meditation sessions and yoga
Private Villa is a short Walk from a Quiet, Beautiful Beach (rare for most retreats)
Breathtaking, Unforgettable Excursion in Nature like Ziplining, Hanging Bridges in the Rainforest, a 1500 ft Jungle Water Slide, Waterfall Hikes, Hot Springs, Volcanic Mud Baths, Snorkeling with Sea Life
Sailing, Surfing, Aquatic Adventures, Saunas, and even more…
Breakthrough Fulfillment Workshops + Coaching, Professional workbooks and resources
1 Week Pre-Retreat Virtual Integration Materials
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Shan Wright
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/holistic-moms-health-and-wellness-tips-christian-mom/id1710946348
@theshanwright
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5 days ago
5 days ago
Show Notes:
Join us today as we dive into the topic of pride, and how it subtly destroys personal and family fulfillment. Learn its antidote and how it will help your relationships thrive. We’ll even talk about the wise, ancient Stoic philosophers, and how they discovered the balance that led to the ultimate fulfillment–or transcendence. Don’t miss it–because these concepts are game changers!
Enjoy!
-Kendra
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → fulfillment.therapist@gmail.com
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
Chat → 1-855-542-8008 *Get questions answered before buying
Save on the $600 off the flash sale! Apply the code SAVE600 to get $600 off our last flash sale for the Costa Rican Retreat when you sign up on FulfillmentTherapy.org.
Our Adventure & Personal Growth Retreat includes:
All-Inclusive 6 Day & 6 Night Stay in Costa Rica
Luxurious Private Villa overlooking Bay
Enjoy Latin Cuisine as our Private Chef prepares 3 meals / Day
& Drinks at our Unlimited Open Bar (fancy non-alcoholic drinks included)
Airport shuttle To & From Included
Professional Therapists / Coaches & Expert Team
Women’s, Men’s, and Couples Retreat at Neighboring Villas
5 Specially Created Fulfillment Meditation Sessions
Immersive Training to Elevate your Relationships & Personal Life
Transformative Meditation sessions and yoga
Private Villa is a short Walk from a Quiet, Beautiful Beach (rare for most retreats)
Breathtaking, Unforgettable Excursion in Nature like Ziplining, Hanging Bridges in the Rainforest, a 1500 ft Jungle Water Slide, Waterfall Hikes, Hot Springs, Volcanic Mud Baths, Snorkeling with Sea Life
Sailing, Surfing, Aquatic Adventures, Saunas, and even more…
Breakthrough Fulfillment Workshops + Coaching, Professional workbooks and resources
1 Week Pre-Retreat Virtual Integration Materials
Costa Rican Retreats
Pride
1: Understanding Pride & its Antidote
Define pride and its manifestations, including healthy and unhealthy forms.
Negative Pride: An excessively high opinion of oneself, often accompanied by arrogance and a lack of humility. It can be an inflated sense of your importance, accomplishments, or abilities, leading to a dismissive or condescending attitude towards others. pride (conceit, boastfulness, superiority, haughtiness, self-importance, egotistical, selfish, vain)
Positive Pride: This can look like joy in the accomplishments of others, like your children, or even in your own accomplishments, if it’s not boastful, but grateful. It often has a view of the big picture and how the thing, person, or act can help others and contribute to the world.
Pride can hinder personal growth, relationships, and overall fulfillment as you lose sight of the big picture and how we’re all connected.
To maintain effectiveness, we need to cultivate humility.
Pride is the root of many other character flaws like contention, having a hard or stubborn heart, or rebelliousness.
Beware of intellectual pride.
The role of humility in growth and progression. Success comes as we’re humble and give thanks where it is due.
Humility is being modest, unassuming, and not overly self-important. It’s having a realistic and modest view of your importance, abilities, and achievements. There’s often an openness to learning from others and acknowledging one's own limitations. Humility is a lack of arrogance or pride and a willingness to listen, learn, and grow. It is often associated with qualities such as modesty, selflessness, and a sense of gratitude. It’s not getting caught up in the opinions of others.
2: Recognizing Unhealthy Pride
Signs of unhealthy pride: defensiveness, unwillingness to admit mistakes, and a sense of superiority.
Pride can manifest in parenting, marriages, and personal life, illustrating its detrimental effects. (ex. Parenting- unwillingness to admit mistakes to your children like when you blamed them for making a mess that wasn’t theirs, or in marriage when you refuse to validate your spouse's perspective because you’re angry and stubborn, or in your personal life like at work where you’re not teachable because you don’t see others as being as competent as you are)
The Stoics were ancient philosophers who emphasized the importance of developing virtues and maintaining inner tranquility regardless of external circumstances. They believed that pride was a destructive force that led to arrogance, selfishness, and an exaggerated sense of self-importance. Instead, they advocated for humility, seeing it as essential for cultivating wisdom, self-awareness, and moral excellence. The Stoics believed in the importance of character refinement, or the ongoing process of improving one's moral and ethical qualities through self-discipline, introspection, and philosophical inquiry. They viewed humility as a key virtue that allowed individuals to recognize their own limitations, embrace their humanity, and strive for personal growth and moral integrity.
3: Healing from Pride
We can stay humble by practicing gratitude, seeking feedback, and cultivating a growth mindset, as well as apologizing, and giving credit where it’s due.
Openness and vulnerability help overcome pride and foster genuine connections.
Share quotes from Marcus Aurelius and Seneca on the importance of humility and self-awareness.
4: Cultivating Personal and Family Fulfillment
When we look beyond ourselves, see the big picture, and cultivate gratitude and humility, we move more into a later-added level on Maslow’s pyramid that he called “Transcendence.” This is more spiritual and comes after we’ve found true connection and healing. This is where they transcend their own personal concerns and see from a higher perspective. This is where they experience true joy, peace, and awareness. It’s the highest level of human development, where people are driven to contribute to the greater good and find meaning beyond themselves. People experience a deep sense of fulfillment and purpose by connecting with something larger than themselves, such as serving others, pursuing creative endeavors, or seeking spiritual enlightenment. They prioritize altruism, compassion, and selflessness, striving to make a positive impact on the world and leaving a lasting legacy. This phase involves transcending personal concerns and ego-driven desires to embrace higher values and ideals, leading to a profound sense of fulfillment and inner peace.
When we apply this to personal growth, marriage, and parenting, we can see how pride only makes us regress and diminishes our potential and fulfillment.
My clients often ask me how parents can make their own needs a priority when this isn’t selfless or how to become our best selves. I respond by reminding them that each family member has value and each person needs to honor and address their neglected needs. As family leaders, we need to lead by example through healing, validation, and cultivation of gifts and talents while maintaining a balance of confidence and humility, time, energy, and focus on the things that matter most.
Monday Apr 22, 2024
Monday Apr 22, 2024
Show Notes:
Join us for an inspiring episode with Lemon Price, where she shares invaluable insights on maintaining courage and faith amidst life's interruptions. Discover how to lead with authenticity and resilience, even in the face of challenges. Lemon's contagious energy and unwavering faith will leave you feeling empowered to embrace your values and navigate life's twists with grace.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → fulfillment.therapist@gmail.com
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
Chat → 1-855-542-8008 *Get questions answered before buying
Save on the $600 off the flash sale! Apply the code SAVE600 to get $600 off our last flash sale for the Costa Rican Retreat when you sign up on FulfillmentTherapy.org.
Our Adventure & Personal Growth Retreat includes:
All-Inclusive 6 Day & 6 Night Stay in Costa Rica
Luxurious Private Villa overlooking Bay
Enjoy Latin Cuisine as our Private Chef prepares 3 meals / Day
& Drinks at our Unlimited Open Bar (fancy non-alcoholic drinks included)
Airport shuttle To & From Included
Professional Therapists / Coaches & Expert Team
Women’s, Men’s, and Couples Retreat at Neighboring Villas
5 Specially Created Fulfillment Meditation Sessions
Immersive Training to Elevate your Relationships & Personal Life
Transformative Meditation sessions and yoga
Private Villa is a short Walk from a Quiet, Beautiful Beach (rare for most retreats)
Breathtaking, Unforgettable Excursion in Nature like Ziplining, Hanging Bridges in the Rainforest, a 1500 ft Jungle Water Slide, Waterfall Hikes, Hot Springs, Volcanic Mud Baths, Snorkeling with Sea Life
Sailing, Surfing, Aquatic Adventures, Saunas, and even more…
Breakthrough Fulfillment Workshops + Coaching, Professional workbooks and resources
1 Week Pre-Retreat Virtual Integration Materials
Costa Rican Retreats
Lemon Price’s Info
Website: lemonprice.co
Podcast: Milk and Honey with Lemon
beacons.ai/lemonprice
Thursday Apr 18, 2024
Thursday Apr 18, 2024
Show Notes:
Join us as we explore the pitfalls of toxic positivity, and how the pressure to 'stay positive' can harm our mental health and strain our relationships. You’ll learn how to identify toxic positivity in yourselves and others, and find out how to embrace authentic emotions and cultivate genuine happiness. By challenging the culture of 'good vibes only,' we can create a more resilient family culture that fosters true connection and personal growth, leading us to a more fulfilling and purpose-driven life.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → fulfillment.therapist@gmail.com
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
Chat → 1-855-542-8008 *Get questions answered before buying
Save on the $600 off the flash sale! Apply the code SAVE600 to get $600 off our last flash sale for the Costa Rican Retreat when you sign up on FulfillmentTherapy.org.
Our Adventure & Personal Growth Retreat includes:
All-Inclusive 6 Day & 6 Night Stay in Costa Rica
Luxurious Private Villa overlooking Bay
Enjoy Latin Cuisine as our Private Chef prepares 3 meals / Day
& Drinks at our Unlimited Open Bar (fancy non-alcoholic drinks included)
Airport shuttle To & From Included
Professional Therapists / Coaches & Expert Team
Women’s, Men’s, and Couples Retreat at Neighboring Villas
5 Specially Created Fulfillment Meditation Sessions
Immersive Training to Elevate your Relationships & Personal Life
Transformative Meditation sessions and yoga
Private Villa is a short Walk from a Quiet, Beautiful Beach (rare for most retreats)
Breathtaking, Unforgettable Excursion in Nature like Ziplining, Hanging Bridges in the Rainforest, a 1500 ft Jungle Water Slide, Waterfall Hikes, Hot Springs, Volcanic Mud Baths, Snorkeling with Sea Life
Sailing, Surfing, Aquatic Adventures, Saunas, and even more…
Breakthrough Fulfillment Workshops + Coaching, Professional workbooks and resources
1 Week Pre-Retreat Virtual Integration Materials
Costa Rican Retreats
Toxic Positivity
Definition of toxic positivity: The tendency to excessively focus on positive thinking and emotions, while invalidating or dismissing negative feelings and experiences.
Toxic positivity can hinder emotional growth, suppress genuine emotions, and create unrealistic expectations.
Identifying Toxic Positivity:
Signs and symptoms: Ignoring or minimizing negative emotions, pressure to always be happy, invalidating others' struggles, fear of expressing vulnerability.
Real-life examples: “you’re okay” (when child is hurt), “we’re so blessed” (when family is experiencing major heartache), “you’re so lucky that you have food and clothes”, “you don’t know what hard is–think about how our ancestors lived”
MESSAGE: Your experience isn’t as valid as others. SHAME follows when anything except positive feelings are experienced.
Negative consequences of toxic positivity: Increased stress, feelings of inadequacy, difficulty processing emotions, strained relationships, and lack of authenticity.
Toxic positivity may seem harmless, but it can deeply invalidate genuine emotions, hindering true connection and personal growth.
Suppressing negative emotions doesn't make them disappear; it only buries them deeper, leading to unresolved conflicts and emotional distress.
Healing from Toxic Positivity:
Recognizing the need for balance: Embracing both positive and negative emotions as valid parts of the human experience.
Practicing self-compassion: Allowing oneself to feel and process emotions without judgment or criticism.
Healing from toxic positivity starts with acknowledging that it's okay not to be okay. Give yourself permission to feel and express your emotions authentically.
True healing begins when we validate our own experiences and extend compassion to ourselves, recognizing that all emotions have value and deserve acknowledgment.
Changing Family Culture:
Cultivating open communication: Encouraging honest conversations about emotions, struggles, and challenges within the family.
Fostering resilience: Teaching resilience as the ability to navigate both triumphs and setbacks with authenticity and grace.
Shifting family culture requires creating a safe space where everyone's feelings are acknowledged and respected, fostering deeper connections and mutual understanding.
Embracing a growth mindset means embracing the full spectrum of human emotions, allowing for growth and learning in times of adversity.
Personal and Family Fulfillment:
Embracing authenticity leads to deeper personal fulfillment and stronger family bonds.
Authenticity fosters genuine connections and allows us to fully embrace our experiences, leading to greater fulfillment and joy in life.
By embracing our true selves and supporting each other authentically, families can thrive and individuals can reach their highest potential.
Monday Apr 15, 2024
Monday Apr 15, 2024
Show Notes:
The Polyvagal Theory and the Autonomic Nervous System offer insights into how our bodies respond to stress and social interactions, delineating three distinct states: social engagement, fight or flight, and freeze. As we understand this, we can recognize our physiological reactions and learn better strategies for emotional regulation AND learn to be more resilient. Whether we’re parents trying to create a calmer environment for our families or in our own personal growth journey, understanding these principles unlocks greater well-being and emotional balance in navigating life's challenges.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → fulfillment.therapist@gmail.com
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
Chat → 1-855-542-8008 *Get questions answered before buying
Save on the $600 off the flash sale! Apply the code SAVE600 to get $600 off our last flash sale for the Costa Rican Retreat when you sign up on FulfillmentTherapy.org.
Our Adventure & Personal Growth Retreat includes:
All-Inclusive 6 Day & 6 Night Stay in Costa Rica
Luxurious Private Villa overlooking Bay
Enjoy Latin Cuisine as our Private Chef prepares 3 meals / Day
& Drinks at our Unlimited Open Bar (fancy non-alcoholic drinks included)
Airport shuttle To & From Included
Professional Therapists / Coaches & Expert Team
Women’s, Men’s, and Couples Retreat at Neighboring Villas
5 Specially Created Fulfillment Meditation Sessions
Immersive Training to Elevate your Relationships & Personal Life
Transformative Meditation sessions and yoga
Private Villa is a short Walk from a Quiet, Beautiful Beach (rare for most retreats)
Breathtaking, Unforgettable Excursion in Nature like Ziplining, Hanging Bridges in the Rainforest, a 1500 ft Jungle Water Slide, Waterfall Hikes, Hot Springs, Volcanic Mud Baths, Snorkeling with Sea Life
Sailing, Surfing, Aquatic Adventures, Saunas, and even more…
Breakthrough Fulfillment Workshops + Coaching, Professional workbooks and resources
1 Week Pre-Retreat Virtual Integration Materials
Costa Rican Retreats
Polyvagal Theory and ANS
The Autonomic Nervous System (ANS):
A complex network of nerves that regulates involuntary bodily functions, such as heart rate, digestion, and respiratory rate. It is divided into two main branches: the sympathetic nervous system, which activates the body's fight or flight response during stress, and the parasympathetic nervous system, which promotes rest and relaxation. The ANS plays a crucial role in maintaining physiological balance and responding to environmental stimuli.
Polyvagal Theory:
Polyvagal Theory, developed by Dr. Stephen Porges, provides insights into the role of the vagus nerve in regulating the Autonomic Nervous System and influencing social behavior. The theory proposes that the vagus nerve mediates between different physiological states, including states of safety and connection (social engagement), mobilization (fight or flight), and immobilization (freeze). By understanding these states and their associated physiological responses, individuals can gain awareness of their own emotional and relational experiences, leading to improved self-regulation and interpersonal connections.
3 Tiers: ventral vagal-safe and social (joy, playful, love, empathy), sympathetic- fight or flight, adrenaline, ACTION state, anxious, hyperactive, lots of tension in body, dorsal vagal- shut down, disconnected, low energy, hopeless, foggy, alone, playing possum, UNABLE to act, shame, inability to self motivate, moving through molasses, in a well, )
Location in the Brain
The vagus nerve originates in the brainstem, specifically the medulla oblongata
Social engagement linked to higher brain regions such as the prefrontal cortex
Fight or flight and freeze responses involve the limbic system and brainstem
Manifestation in the Body
Social engagement: relaxed facial muscles, steady breathing, open body language
Fight or flight: increased heart rate, rapid breathing, tense muscles
When your body perceives danger and assesses you can overcome the threat, it triggers a fight response. This leads to physical readiness for combat as your brain signals your body. Signs of a fight response include a tight jaw, teeth grinding, a strong urge to hit or kick, intense anger, and a burning sensation or pit in the stomach, and an readiness to attack.
When your body perceives danger but assesses you can escape it, you enter flight mode. Hormones like adrenaline fuel your body, allowing you to run longer than usual. Signs include excessive movement, feeling trapped or tense, restlessness, numbness in limbs, and darting eyes.
Freeze: immobility, shallow breathing, decreased heart rate (shock) ex. Simon & the candle, Vienna not breathing
The freeze response occurs when your body perceives you can neither fight nor flee from the threat. Signs include a sense of dread, pale skin, stiffness, coldness, numbness, and a loud, pounding heart, followed by a decreasing heart rate. (time slows or stops, you feel far away or distant from others)
Fawn: appeasing behavior, seeking approval
The fawn response often masks internal distress caused by trauma, especially stemming from childhood abuse, where individuals become overly agreeable to appease their abusers. This reaction, driven by the need for survival, can lead to confusion and guilt, as victims prioritize soothing their abusers over self-protection. Common signs of fawning behavior include overdependence on others' opinions, lack of boundaries, susceptibility to manipulation, and codependency, often stemming from a history of neglect or rejection by narcissistic parents. Ultimately, the fawn response can erode one's sense of identity and perpetuate codependent patterns in adulthood.
Underlying Needs and Meeting Them
Social engagement: need for connection, safety, and trust
Fight or flight: need for safety and control
Freeze: need for protection and dissociation
Fawn: need for approval and acceptance
Gaining Awareness and Eliminating Shame
Recognizing bodily sensations associated with each response
Understanding the role of the ANS in survival (when we understand what state we’re in, we can calm ourselves down before engaging)
Using knowledge as a tool for self-regulation and emotional resilience
By understanding the Polyvagal Theory and the Autonomic Nervous System, individuals can gain insight into their physiological responses to stress and learn strategies to regulate their emotions and improve their overall well-being.
Polyvagal Theory Explained Simply
Thursday Apr 11, 2024
Thursday Apr 11, 2024
Show Notes:
The Polyvagal Theory and the Autonomic Nervous System offer insights into how our bodies respond to stress and social interactions, delineating three distinct states: social engagement, fight or flight, and freeze. As we understand this, we can recognize our physiological reactions and learn better strategies for emotional regulation AND learn to be more resilient. Whether we’re parents trying to create a calmer environment for our families or in our own personal growth journey, understanding these principles unlocks greater well-being and emotional balance in navigating life's challenges.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → fulfillment.therapist@gmail.com
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
Chat → 1-855-542-8008 *Get questions answered before buying
Save on the $600 off the flash sale! Apply the code SAVE600 to get $600 off our last flash sale for the Costa Rican Retreat when you sign up on FulfillmentTherapy.org.
Our Adventure & Personal Growth Retreat includes:
All-Inclusive 6 Day & 6 Night Stay in Costa Rica
Luxurious Private Villa overlooking Bay
Enjoy Latin Cuisine as our Private Chef prepares 3 meals / Day
& Drinks at our Unlimited Open Bar (fancy non-alcoholic drinks included)
Airport shuttle To & From Included
Professional Therapists / Coaches & Expert Team
Women’s, Men’s, and Couples Retreat at Neighboring Villas
5 Specially Created Fulfillment Meditation Sessions
Immersive Training to Elevate your Relationships & Personal Life
Transformative Meditation sessions and yoga
Private Villa is a short Walk from a Quiet, Beautiful Beach (rare for most retreats)
Breathtaking, Unforgettable Excursion in Nature like Ziplining, Hanging Bridges in the Rainforest, a 1500 ft Jungle Water Slide, Waterfall Hikes, Hot Springs, Volcanic Mud Baths, Snorkeling with Sea Life
Sailing, Surfing, Aquatic Adventures, Saunas, and even more…
Breakthrough Fulfillment Workshops + Coaching, Professional workbooks and resources
1 Week Pre-Retreat Virtual Integration Materials
Costa Rican Retreats
Polyvagal Theory and ANS
The Autonomic Nervous System (ANS):
A complex network of nerves that regulates involuntary bodily functions, such as heart rate, digestion, and respiratory rate. It is divided into two main branches: the sympathetic nervous system, which activates the body's fight or flight response during stress, and the parasympathetic nervous system, which promotes rest and relaxation. The ANS plays a crucial role in maintaining physiological balance and responding to environmental stimuli.
Polyvagal Theory:
Polyvagal Theory, developed by Dr. Stephen Porges, provides insights into the role of the vagus nerve in regulating the Autonomic Nervous System and influencing social behavior. The theory proposes that the vagus nerve mediates between different physiological states, including states of safety and connection (social engagement), mobilization (fight or flight), and immobilization (freeze). By understanding these states and their associated physiological responses, individuals can gain awareness of their own emotional and relational experiences, leading to improved self-regulation and interpersonal connections.
3 Tiers: ventral vagal-safe and social (joy, playful, love, empathy), sympathetic- fight or flight, adrenaline, ACTION state, anxious, hyperactive, lots of tension in body, dorsal vagal- shut down, disconnected, low energy, hopeless, foggy, alone, playing possum, UNABLE to act, shame, inability to self motivate, moving through molasses, in a well, )
Location in the Brain
The vagus nerve originates in the brainstem, specifically the medulla oblongata
Social engagement linked to higher brain regions such as the prefrontal cortex
Fight or flight and freeze responses involve the limbic system and brainstem
Manifestation in the Body
Social engagement: relaxed facial muscles, steady breathing, open body language
Fight or flight: increased heart rate, rapid breathing, tense muscles
When your body perceives danger and assesses you can overcome the threat, it triggers a fight response. This leads to physical readiness for combat as your brain signals your body. Signs of a fight response include a tight jaw, teeth grinding, a strong urge to hit or kick, intense anger, and a burning sensation or pit in the stomach, and an readiness to attack.
When your body perceives danger but assesses you can escape it, you enter flight mode. Hormones like adrenaline fuel your body, allowing you to run longer than usual. Signs include excessive movement, feeling trapped or tense, restlessness, numbness in limbs, and darting eyes.
Freeze: immobility, shallow breathing, decreased heart rate (shock) ex. Simon & the candle, Vienna not breathing
The freeze response occurs when your body perceives you can neither fight nor flee from the threat. Signs include a sense of dread, pale skin, stiffness, coldness, numbness, and a loud, pounding heart, followed by a decreasing heart rate. (time slows or stops, you feel far away or distant from others)
Fawn: appeasing behavior, seeking approval
The fawn response often masks internal distress caused by trauma, especially stemming from childhood abuse, where individuals become overly agreeable to appease their abusers. This reaction, driven by the need for survival, can lead to confusion and guilt, as victims prioritize soothing their abusers over self-protection. Common signs of fawning behavior include overdependence on others' opinions, lack of boundaries, susceptibility to manipulation, and codependency, often stemming from a history of neglect or rejection by narcissistic parents. Ultimately, the fawn response can erode one's sense of identity and perpetuate codependent patterns in adulthood.
Underlying Needs and Meeting Them
Social engagement: need for connection, safety, and trust
Fight or flight: need for safety and control
Freeze: need for protection and dissociation
Fawn: need for approval and acceptance
Gaining Awareness and Eliminating Shame
Recognizing bodily sensations associated with each response
Understanding the role of the ANS in survival (when we understand what state we’re in, we can calm ourselves down before engaging)
Using knowledge as a tool for self-regulation and emotional resilience
By understanding the Polyvagal Theory and the Autonomic Nervous System, individuals can gain insight into their physiological responses to stress and learn strategies to regulate their emotions and improve their overall well-being.
Polyvagal Theory Explained Simply
Monday Apr 08, 2024
Monday Apr 08, 2024
Show Notes:
The Polyvagal Theory and the Autonomic Nervous System offer insights into how our bodies respond to stress and social interactions, delineating three distinct states: social engagement, fight or flight, and freeze. As we understand this, we can recognize our physiological reactions and learn better strategies for emotional regulation AND learn to be more resilient. Whether we’re parents trying to create a calmer environment for our families or in our own personal growth journey, understanding these principles unlocks greater well-being and emotional balance in navigating life's challenges.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → fulfillment.therapist@gmail.com
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching
Chat → 1-855-542-8008 *Get questions answered before buying
Save on the $600 off the flash sale! Apply the code SAVE600 to get $600 off our last flash sale for the Costa Rican Retreat when you sign up on FulfillmentTherapy.org.
Our Adventure & Personal Growth Retreat includes:
All-Inclusive 6 Day & 6 Night Stay in Costa Rica
Luxurious Private Villa overlooking Bay
Enjoy Latin Cuisine as our Private Chef prepares 3 meals / Day
& Drinks at our Unlimited Open Bar (fancy non-alcoholic drinks included)
Airport shuttle To & From Included
Professional Therapists / Coaches & Expert Team
Women’s, Men’s, and Couples Retreat at Neighboring Villas
5 Specially Created Fulfillment Meditation Sessions
Immersive Training to Elevate your Relationships & Personal Life
Transformative Meditation sessions and yoga
Private Villa is a short Walk from a Quiet, Beautiful Beach (rare for most retreats)
Breathtaking, Unforgettable Excursion in Nature like Ziplining, Hanging Bridges in the Rainforest, a 1500 ft Jungle Water Slide, Waterfall Hikes, Hot Springs, Volcanic Mud Baths, Snorkeling with Sea Life
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Polyvagal Theory and ANS
The Autonomic Nervous System (ANS):
A complex network of nerves that regulates involuntary bodily functions, such as heart rate, digestion, and respiratory rate. It is divided into two main branches: the sympathetic nervous system, which activates the body's fight or flight response during stress, and the parasympathetic nervous system, which promotes rest and relaxation. The ANS plays a crucial role in maintaining physiological balance and responding to environmental stimuli.
Polyvagal Theory:
Polyvagal Theory, developed by Dr. Stephen Porges, provides insights into the role of the vagus nerve in regulating the Autonomic Nervous System and influencing social behavior. The theory proposes that the vagus nerve mediates between different physiological states, including states of safety and connection (social engagement), mobilization (fight or flight), and immobilization (freeze). By understanding these states and their associated physiological responses, individuals can gain awareness of their own emotional and relational experiences, leading to improved self-regulation and interpersonal connections.
3 Tiers: ventral vagal-safe and social (joy, playful, love, empathy), sympathetic- fight or flight, adrenaline, ACTION state, anxious, hyperactive, lots of tension in body, dorsal vagal- shut down, disconnected, low energy, hopeless, foggy, alone, playing possum, UNABLE to act, shame, inability to self motivate, moving through molasses, in a well, )
Location in the Brain
The vagus nerve originates in the brainstem, specifically the medulla oblongata
Social engagement linked to higher brain regions such as the prefrontal cortex
Fight or flight and freeze responses involve the limbic system and brainstem
Manifestation in the Body
Social engagement: relaxed facial muscles, steady breathing, open body language
Fight or flight: increased heart rate, rapid breathing, tense muscles
When your body perceives danger and assesses you can overcome the threat, it triggers a fight response. This leads to physical readiness for combat as your brain signals your body. Signs of a fight response include a tight jaw, teeth grinding, a strong urge to hit or kick, intense anger, and a burning sensation or pit in the stomach, and an readiness to attack.
When your body perceives danger but assesses you can escape it, you enter flight mode. Hormones like adrenaline fuel your body, allowing you to run longer than usual. Signs include excessive movement, feeling trapped or tense, restlessness, numbness in limbs, and darting eyes.
Freeze: immobility, shallow breathing, decreased heart rate (shock) ex. Simon & the candle, Vienna not breathing
The freeze response occurs when your body perceives you can neither fight nor flee from the threat. Signs include a sense of dread, pale skin, stiffness, coldness, numbness, and a loud, pounding heart, followed by a decreasing heart rate. (time slows or stops, you feel far away or distant from others)
Fawn: appeasing behavior, seeking approval
The fawn response often masks internal distress caused by trauma, especially stemming from childhood abuse, where individuals become overly agreeable to appease their abusers. This reaction, driven by the need for survival, can lead to confusion and guilt, as victims prioritize soothing their abusers over self-protection. Common signs of fawning behavior include overdependence on others' opinions, lack of boundaries, susceptibility to manipulation, and codependency, often stemming from a history of neglect or rejection by narcissistic parents. Ultimately, the fawn response can erode one's sense of identity and perpetuate codependent patterns in adulthood.
Underlying Needs and Meeting Them
Social engagement: need for connection, safety, and trust
Fight or flight: need for safety and control
Freeze: need for protection and dissociation
Fawn: need for approval and acceptance
Gaining Awareness and Eliminating Shame
Recognizing bodily sensations associated with each response
Understanding the role of the ANS in survival (when we understand what state we’re in, we can calm ourselves down before engaging)
Using knowledge as a tool for self-regulation and emotional resilience
By understanding the Polyvagal Theory and the Autonomic Nervous System, individuals can gain insight into their physiological responses to stress and learn strategies to regulate their emotions and improve their overall well-being.
Polyvagal Theory Explained Simply
Thursday Apr 04, 2024
Thursday Apr 04, 2024
Show Notes:
In this episode, we explore Sue Johnson's book "Hold Me Tight," transformational tools on improving romantic relationships. By understanding attachment theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), couples can learn to communicate better, break negative patterns, and build deeper connections. Get ready for expert tips, tools to navigate conflicts, ways to strengthen bonds, and simple solutions to create a more fulfilling relationship TODAY!
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-Kendra
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Quotes from "Hold Me Tight", by Sue Johnson
"The dance of love requires two partners, moving in harmony, attuned to each other's needs and emotions."
"Emotional closeness is the foundation of a secure and fulfilling relationship."
"When we feel safe to express our vulnerabilities, we create opportunities for deeper intimacy and connection."
Five Main Tips for Couples
Prioritize emotional connection: Make time to connect emotionally with your partner daily, expressing love, appreciation, and understanding.
Practice active listening: Listen to your partner's feelings and concerns without judgment, validating their experiences and showing empathy.
Foster vulnerability: Share your own emotions and vulnerabilities with your partner, creating a safe space for mutual openness and acceptance.
Break negative cycles: Recognize and interrupt negative patterns of interaction, replacing them with positive communication and behaviors.
Seek professional help when needed: Don't hesitate to reach out to a couples therapist trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy for guidance and support in strengthening your relationship.
Couple Cycle & Repair Worksheet Steps Here
Monday Apr 01, 2024
Monday Apr 01, 2024
Welcome to today's episode, where we celebrate our 100th EPISODE and explore the power of humor therapy and the lighthearted tradition of April Fools' Day–my favorite holiday! Humor has long been celebrated for its ability to uplift, strengthen bonds, and promote well-being. Join me as we talk about the benefits of humor for individuals and families, and discover how laughter can bring joy, health, and unity into our lives. Not only that--but dont miss MAJOR GIVEAWAYS and hilarious stories (and ideas) that you can put into place today!
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Humor Notes:
Brief History of April Fools' Day:April Fools' Day, celebrated on April 1st each year, is a lighthearted day of pranks and practical jokes. Its believed to have originated in various cultures like ancient Rome and medieval Europe. One popular theory links April Fools' Day to the adoption of the Gregorian calendar in the 16th century when New Year's Day was moved from April 1st to January 1st. Those who continued to celebrate New Year's Day on April 1st became the subject of jokes and hoaxes, thus giving rise to the tradition of April Fools' Day.
The Benefits of Humor:Humor therapy, also known as therapeutic humor, is a recognized form of complementary medicine that harnesses the healing power of laughter. Research has shown that laughter can have numerous benefits for both physical and mental health. It reduces stress hormones, boosts the immune system, improves cardiovascular health, and enhances mood. As Victor Borge famously said, "Laughter is the shortest distance between two people." Humor has the remarkable ability to unite people and strengthen relationships, making it a valuable tool for families seeking to cultivate joy and connection in their homes.Incorporating More Fun Into Your Home:There are simple ways to infuse humor and laughter into your family life. Create a humor board or jar filled with funny quotes, jokes, or anecdotes that family members can add to and enjoy together. Plan regular family game nights or movie marathons featuring comedies (like Studio C) that everyone can laugh along with. Encourage playful banter and light-hearted teasing among family members, always ensuring that it's done with love and respect.
Preventing Humor or Pranks from Backfiring:While humor can be a powerful tool for bonding, it's important to approach it with sensitivity and awareness of others' feelings. Before playing a prank or sharing a joke, consider the potential impact it may have and whether it aligns with everyone's sense of humor. Avoid jokes that could be hurtful, offensive, or triggering to family members. Remember, healthy humor brings joy and laughter without causing harm or distress. (some of my cousins think all pranks are mean because for them, it’s drawing unwanted attention to them)Now let’s talk about some examples of what NOT to do: heal nachos, hairy brownies, frozen wild boar, snake skin sandwich, find the toenails, 3am horror sounds on alexa, Gorky in shower, yucky potion drink, shock mat, shock collar, sticky floors,
Unifying Families Through Laughter:Healthy humor and laughter have the remarkable ability to unify families, creating shared moments of joy and connection. When families laugh together, they form bonds that strengthen their relationships and carry them through both joyful and challenging times. As John Cleese once said, "I'm struck by how laughter connects you with people. It's almost impossible to maintain any kind of distance or any sense of social hierarchy when you're just howling with laughter." By embracing laughter and humor in all its forms, families can find resilience, strength, and joy in each other's company. It softens hearts, and changes the atmosphere. We often use it as a tool to get our kids to let go or grudges or stubbornness. When we can get them to laugh or smile, everyone moves on in healthier ways. I thought my kids would hate me after they got mad at some pranks, but they beg for it now. They like to brag to their friends about how mischievous I am, and with all the ways I’m trying to improve in my life, I’m pretty sure one of my most lasting legacies will be my pranks and my childhood glee that comes out when I’m pranking people. Pranks TO DO: mustard donuts, mustard oreos, heart butt patches, salty sour patch kids, taped nozzle, sardine cupcakes, Gorky in closet, vinegar water, soap popsicle, caramel onion, flour plate prank, dog poo
Conclusion:
As we celebrate April Fools' Day and the gift of laughter, let us remember the profound impact that humor can have on our lives. Whether through jokes, pranks, or playful banter, humor has the power to uplift our spirits, strengthen our bonds, and bring joy into our homes. By incorporating more fun and laughter into our family lives, we can create a nurturing environment where love, laughter, and togetherness thrive. So, let's embrace the laughter, share a smile, and celebrate the joy of being together with those we love.
Thursday Mar 28, 2024
Thursday Mar 28, 2024
Show Notes:
Come check out our MOST MEMORABLE moments and episodes since airing! Find out what resonated most with listeners and why. Want to listen to the most impactful episodes and learn WHY they are changing lives? Tune in to find out why and look below for links to each episode.
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-Kendra
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Luxurious Private Villa overlooking Bay
Enjoy Latin Cuisine as our Private Chef prepares 3 meals / Day
& Drinks at our Unlimited Open Bar (fancy non-alcoholic drinks included)
Airport shuttle To & From Included
Professional Therapists / Coaches & Expert Team
Women’s, Men’s, and Couples Retreat at Neighboring Villas
5 Specially Created Fulfillment Meditation Sessions
Immersive Training to Elevate your Relationships & Personal Life
Transformative Meditation sessions and yoga
Private Villa is a short Walk from a Quiet, Beautiful Beach (rare for most retreats)
Breathtaking, Unforgettable Excursion in Nature like Ziplining, Hanging Bridges in the Rainforest, a 1500 ft Jungle Water Slide, Waterfall Hikes, Hot Springs, Volcanic Mud Baths, Snorkeling with Sea Life
Sailing, Surfing, Aquatic Adventures, Saunas, and even more…
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MOST LOVED Episodes:
1. 1 | How to Find Fulfillment, Purpose, and Meaning in your Life https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/01-how-to-find-fulfillment-purpose-and-meaning-in-your-life/id1682479961?i=1000611077016
2. 56 | Part 1: Speaking Your Truth: Using Your Voice to Heal Shame and Resentment
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/56-part-1-speaking-your-truth-using-your-voice-to-heal/id1682479961?i=1000633051111
3. 40 | Part 1: Life Lessons Unleashed: A Listener’s Path to Transformation
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/40-part-1-life-lessons-unleashed-a-listeners-path/id1682479961?i=1000626665969
4. 02 | The Cycle of Anxiety: 10 tips on Leaning into Overwhelm, Normalizing Fear, and Finding the Courage to Grow
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/02-the-cycle-of-anxiety-10-tips-on-leaning/id1682479961?i=1000611275177
5. 10 | Creating Boundaries: How to SET, ENFORCE, and MAINTAIN them so you can STOP Being a Pushover & Start Gaining Self Respect
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/10-creating-boundaries-how-to-set-enforce-and/id1682479961?i=1000613951932
6. 16 | Understanding Cultural Laws, Fence Laws, and the Spirit and Letter of the Law
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/16-understanding-cultural-laws-fence-laws-and-the/id1682479961?i=1000616602892
7. 61 | Part 1: The Guilt-Free Mom: Balancing Your Needs and Family Demands
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/61-part-1-the-guilt-free-mom-balancing-your-needs/id1682479961?i=1000635011960
8. 66 | Meeting Your Unmet Needs, Guilt-Free, Without Neglecting your Family & Values
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/66-meeting-your-unmet-needs-guilt-free-without-neglecting/id1682479961?i=1000637399341
9. 76 | Brighter Days Ahead: Tackling Winter Blues for Parents & Families
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/76-brighter-days-ahead-tackling-winter-blues-for-parents/id1682479961?i=1000640874803
10. 54 | Part 1: Transforming Stress: Own Your Morning & Elevate Your Life
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/54-part-1-transforming-stress-own-your-morning-elevate/id1682479961?i=1000632245996
BONUS: 75 | The Art of Impactful Goals: Building Your Ideal Future & Making a Lasting Difference While Parenting
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/75-the-art-of-impactful-goals-building-your-ideal/id1682479961?i=1000640510611
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