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173 | Parenting Sassholes: Taming Challenging Behavior with Love and Limits

Show Notes:
 
Our courses launch Jan. 1, 2025, so put that on your calenders!!
 
In this episode, we tackle the tough topic of managing challenging child behavior with expert advice on setting boundaries, practicing positive reinforcement, and maintaining calm communication. Learn how these strategies can transform chaos into cooperation while nurturing both your child's growth and your own well-being as a parent.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
 
Quotes:
Dr. Kevin Leman says, "Rules without relationship lead to rebellion."
Dr. Daniel Siegel's words: "Where attention goes, neural firing flows, and neural connection grows."
Dr. Ross Greene reminds us, "Kids do well if they can." 
 
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172 | Balancing Family and Self: The Art of Differentiation for Energized Parenting, with Kensi Evans

Show Notes:
Hey friends! Today we explore the transformative power of differentiation in family life with returning guest, Kensi Evans. Learn how maintaining your individuality while staying connected to your loved ones can lead to a healthier home and greater personal fulfillment. Discover strategies for setting healthy boundaries, nurturing your passions, and modeling self-care for your children. This conversation is a must-listen for any parent looking to break free from burnout and create a thriving family dynamic.
 
Enjoy!
-Kendra
 
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Quotes:
"Differentiation deals with working on one's own self, with controlling self, with becoming a more responsible person, and permitting others to be themselves." 
- Murray Bowen
"The real problem is that the partners in a difficult relations are 'no-selfs.' Too much of each self has been absorbed into the relationship." - Roberta M. Gilbert
 
TIPS:
Get to know yourself: Take a minute to figure out what makes you tick. Why do you get annoyed when your partner leaves dishes in the sink? Understanding your own quirks can help you chill out in tricky situations.
Keep it one-on-one: When you're mad at your partner, don't run to your mom or bestie to vent. Try to work it out with your partner directly. It's tempting to get others on your side, but it usually makes things messier.
Spot the family reruns: Notice if your family has a "greatest hits" of arguments or behaviors. Maybe everyone clams up when things get tense, just like grandma used to do. Spotting these patterns is the first step to changing them.
Be your own emotional DJ: Learn to turn down your own stress levels without relying on others to calm you down. It's like being able to soothe yourself instead of always needing a hug from mom.
Give people space to be themselves: Remember that your partner or kids aren't extensions of you. Let them have their own thoughts and feelings, even if you don't agree. Focus on managing your own reactions instead of trying to control theirs.

171 | The Shame Game: Overcoming Guilt in Your Intimate Life with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

Show Notes:
 
In this eye-opening episode, relationship and sexuality expert Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins us to discuss the often overlooked impact of trauma on intimate relationships. We explore topics such as recognizing trauma responses, understanding dissociation, and navigating the complex emotions that arise during intimacy. Dr. Finlayson-Fife offers valuable insights and practical strategies for couples looking to heal, reconnect, and build a fulfilling sex life that respects individual healing journeys.
 
Enjoy!
-Kendra
 
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Jennifer's Links:
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170 | Grace Over Gripes: How to Respond to Pet Peeves with Kindness, with Dr. Harry Cohen

Show Notes:
 
In today’s episode, Dr. Harry Cohen delves into the transformative power of addressing pet peeves with a positive mindset. Discover how reframing irritations can lead to personal growth and create a ripple effect of kindness in your relationships. Learn practical strategies for pausing before reacting, choosing words that uplift, and embracing the lessons hidden within everyday annoyances. By practicing grace and gratitude, you can foster a more joyful environment for yourself and those around you, ultimately becoming a beacon of light in a sometimes salty world.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
 
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Dr. Harry Cohen’s Links:
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https://www.youtube.com/@BetheSunNottheSalt/videos
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169 | Unmasking Unhealthy Habits: A Parent's Guide to Positive Change with Michele Riechman

Show Notes:
In this episode, we dive deep into the world of mental health and wellness with coach and personal trainer Michele Riechman. We learn how to identify and fulfill our unmet needs, overcome challenges, and achieve greater fulfillment in life while balancing family responsibilities. Michele and I share practical tips for self-care, setting boundaries, and breaking free from unhealthy patterns that hold us back. This episode is perfect for overwhelmed parents looking to improve their mental health and teach their families the power of self-improvement.
 
Enjoy!
-Kendra
 
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Michele Riechman: 
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https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/healthy-beyond-40-lose-weight-healthier-habits-healthy/id1674457782
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168 | Deck the Halls, Not Your Relatives: Kickstart Your Boundary Revolution This Holiday

Show Notes:
Today we’ll be learning about the critical role of boundaries in managing holiday stress and improving family dynamics. We explore the nature of boundaries, provide strategies for clear communication, and give easy tips for setting and maintaining limits during family gatherings. Gain the tools to create a more balanced and enjoyable holiday experience, leading to reduced overwhelm and improved personal well-being.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
 
Family Holiday Boundaries Worksheet
Understanding Boundaries
A boundary is a limit or rule you set for yourself in relationships. It defines what behavior you will or won't accept from others, and how you'll respond. Boundaries are not:
Threats or ultimatums
Ways to control others
Punishments
Boundaries differ from consequences in that:
Boundaries are rules you set for yourself
Consequences are actions you take when boundaries are crossed
Step 1: Identify Your Needs and Limits
Reflect on past family holiday experiences. List 3-5 situations that caused you stress or discomfort:
 
 
 
 
 
Step 2: Define Your Boundaries
For each situation, write a clear, simple boundary statement using "I" language:
I will...
I won't...
I need...
I don't want...
It's not okay for...
Step 3: Communicate Your Boundaries
Practice expressing your boundaries calmly and directly. Write how you'll communicate each:
 
 
 
 
 
Step 4: Plan for Enforcement
For each boundary, decide on a consequence if it's not respected:
If [boundary] is crossed, I will...
If [boundary] is crossed, I will...
If [boundary] is crossed, I will...
If [boundary] is crossed, I will...
If [boundary] is crossed, I will...
Step 5: Self-Care Strategies
List 3 self-care activities you can do during family gatherings to maintain your boundaries:
 
 
 
Step 6: Positive Affirmations
Write 3 positive affirmations to remind yourself of the importance of your boundaries:
I have the right to...
My needs are important because...
Setting boundaries helps me...
Remember, setting and maintaining boundaries is a skill that takes practice. Be patient with yourself as you implement these changes
Quotes:
"No is a complete sentence." - Anne Lamott
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167 | From Trauma to Triumph: Overcoming Past Wounds for Better Parenting, with Abbie Tait

Show Notes:
Trigger Warning - Domestic Violence
Today I’m talking to my sister about her experiences with divorce, an affair, and an abusive relationship. She talks about the importance of vulnerability in relationships and how childhood wounds influenced her choices and behavior as an adult. Abbie discusses her commitment to deep self-reflection and healing work to break unhealthy patterns and manifest healthier relationships. We hope throughout this conversation that you learn how to to trust you intuition and honor your boundaries.
-Kendra
 
Abbietait (Instagram) Abbie bishofsky/tait (Facebook)
 
Domestic Violence Hotline:
800-799-7233
Text BEGIN to 88788
 
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166 | What is Your Stress Type?: How Our Stress Types Affect How We Reach Our Goals and Learn What Your Type Is, with Priyanka Venugopal

Show Notes:
In this episode, former OBGYN Priyanka Menugopal shares her personal journey of losing over 60 pounds and becoming a wellness coach. She discusses the four stress types – fight, flight, freeze, and fawn – and how understanding these can help overwhelmed parents tackle daily challenges and achieve sustainable weight loss. Priyanka offers practical strategies for busy parents to improve their wellness while balancing family life, emphasizing the importance of modeling healthy behaviors for children. Together, we hope to provide valuable insights for parents looking to transform their relationship with stress, food, and overall wellness, ultimately benefiting the entire family.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
 
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Priyanka’s Links:
You can find Priyanka on Instagram here https://www.instagram.com/burnstressloseweight, and her website here https://www.burnstressloseweight.com.

165 | When Beliefs Divide: My Journey Through Discrimination

Show Notes:
Hey friends, I had a tough experience this week that made me reflect on how our differences can sometimes drive us apart, even with the best intentions. A client I was excited to work with decided not to continue with me after finding out about my faith, and it honestly stung. It’s tough when rejection hits, especially when you feel misunderstood, but it reminded me of the importance of staying open to other perspectives. It's not always easy, but fostering understanding instead of conflict, especially in our relationships, is almost always worth the effort!
Enjoy!
-Kendra
 
Quotes:
"The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function." - F. Scott Fitzgerald
"It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it." - Aristotle
"We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are." - Anaïs Nin
"Be one; and if ye are not one ye are not mine." - Jesus Christ
"There is always much more that unites us than divides us." - Elder David L. Buckner
“My father often reminded me that simply sitting in a pew on Sunday doesn’t make you a good Christian any more than sleeping in a garage makes you a car.“ Elder Buckner  https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2024/10/25buckner?lang=eng 
 
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164 | Beyond the Scars: Is It Possible to Heal Our Wounds Forever? With Dr. Ray Doktor

Show Notes:
 
Hey friends! Today Dr. Ray Doctor joins us on Fulfillment Therapy to discuss transformative healing beyond emotional scars. With over 28 years of experience and a bestselling book, he emphasizes the power of rewriting personal narratives to achieve lasting recovery from trauma. His approach, including techniques like EMDR, focuses on creating emotional safety and empowering clients to integrate their experiences positively. Tune in for insights that could change your perspective on growth and healing forever!
Enjoy!
-Kendra
 
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