FULFILLMENT THERAPY - Marriage & Family Therapy, Self Mastery, Self Actualization, Unmet Needs, LDS Parent, Family Connection

19 | Handling Haters: Secrets to Managing Hurt, Misunderstanding, and Offense–and How to Turn it into Fuel for Growth

Do you ever hold back from being your brightest self for fear that you’ll be judged? Or maybe you have boldly stepped forward and you’ve been met with resistance, pessimism, fault finding cloaked as advice, misunderstanding, harsh assumptions and offense? 
Maybe you go to great lengths to be careful and respectful, and yet you still find many naysayers, or those who criticize, object, and oppose the good you’re trying to do. The more these little jabs occur, the more you doubt yourself and wonder if stepping forward was the right choice. Maybe you’ve discovered these deep hurts, especially when several of these naysayers are friends and family who you thought would have your back.
If this is you, hang on, my friend. You’re not alone and this episode is especially for you. 
-Kendra
 
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If you're ready for accelerated transformation, I'm launching Igniting Life on August 21st. This is a 12 week mental health and wellness reset for individuals who are ready for change in clear, step-by-step ways with necessary weekly accountability. If you’re ready to ignite your life and really start loving life again, this is the course for you. I guarantee that the investment you make will be returned tenfold with tried and true therapeutic techniques, strategies, and tools from an invested, trustworthy source. Your compound growth is waiting for you to make a commitment. Every dollar you spend on self growth is proven to save you in future mental and physical health costs. Invest in your personal development and find greater fulfillment for yourself and those in your sphere of influence. Spots are limited so sign up today on www.fulfillmenttherapy.org.
 
Quotes:
“Haters don’t hate you…. The reality is, they fear that they will never be able to get to where you are right now.” -Leah Remillet
 
“Learn to use criticism as fuel and you will never run out of energy.” -Orrin Woodward
 
“It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.” -Andre Gide
 
“Dear Haters, I have so much more for you to hate. Just watch.”
 
“Haters are my favorite. I’ve built an empire with the bricks they’ve thrown at me.” -CM Punk
 
“I don’t worry about haters…. They are just angry because the truth I speak contradicts the lie they live.” -Steve Maraboli
 
“People are probably not happy with their lives if they’re busy discussing yours.” -Unknown
 
“You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.” -Winston Churchill
 
“Haters don’t really hate you. They hate themselves because you’re a reflection of what they wish to be.”-Unknown
 
“Most haters are stuck in a poisonous mental prison of jealousy and self-doubt that blinds them to their own potentiality.” -Steve Maraboli
 
“Let them judge you. Let them misunderstand you. Let them gossip about you. Their opinions aren’t your problem. You stay kind, committed to love and free in your authenticity. No matter what they do or say, don’t you doubt your worth or the beauty of your truth. Just keep shining like you always do.” -Scott Stabile
 
“Your loved ones will probably be among the first to try to talk you out of greatness. Some of them will try to discourage you from doing something significant because it makes them feel small. Walk boldly into the unknown, through fear and rejection. Don’t let loved ones and haters stop you from changing the landscape of your life. At some point, you’ll be rejected, and it’ll hurt, but they don’t see what you see. Only those with vision can do the impossible. Hold your head high. If people don’t understand you, stand up straight and step forward anyway. Don’t you lose your confidence. You have gifts and you know your potential. Don’t allow yourself to be stifled. Let your ideas come to life. Keep showing up. Let their disbelief fuel your convictions, and thank God that it didn’t keep you down on the ground. You are meant to soar, so surround yourself with eagles and let go of haters that try to convince you that you’re meant for depths and not heights. You’re here to build a legacy, and to pave the way for others. The world needs more eagles. Don’t let other people come in the way of your dreams–even if they’re loved ones. Don’t lose your focus. Don’t allow any haters and halters to become obstacles. Bring the unseen to life. Create the reality you want! Look for the light in the darkness, and move forward especially when you feel alone because that is when it matters most. Don’t stop believing in yourself. You are God’s miracle! You were made for greatness. And you are never, ever alone.” -Kendra Nielson

18 | Generational Healing & Development with Joel Nielson, Licensed Counselor: Leaving a Stronger Legacy for your Posterity

Today we'll hear from Fulfillment Therapy's first guest, Joel Nielson, who is also a clinical counselor and my husband. You'll learn a little more about us, our family, Joel's professional passions and what he's doing to help people with generational healing.
 
If you're interested in leaving a legacy of healing and changing any negative patterns that have been handed down to you, you'll be interested in this episode today. 
 
I hope you enjoy!
-Kendra
 
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Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching 
Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests
 
If you're ready for accelerated transformation, I'm launching Igniting Life on August 20th. This is a 12 week mental health and wellness reset for individuals who are ready for change in clear, step-by-step ways with necessary weekly accountability. If you’re ready to ignite your life and really start loving life again, this is the course for you. I guarantee that the investment you make will be returned tenfold with tried and true therapeutic techniques, strategies, and tools from an invested, trustworthy source. Your compound growth is waiting for you to make a commitment. Every dollar you spend on self growth is proven to save you in future mental and physical health costs. You truly won’t regret investing in your mental health and wellness because of the compound growth you’ll begin to see in all areas of your life. Sign up today on fulfillmenttherapy.org. Spots are limited!
Joel Nielson’s website is www.genhealer.com

17 | Motivation and Stages of Change: Understand What is Keeping You Stuck

Do you ever feel like you know what things you need to do to improve in your life, but you can’t seem to care enough to actually do them? Do you find yourself envying those that always seem to find the motivation, and wish you could be them? Are you often too tired to do much beyond the bare minimum?
Today we’ll talk about motivation and you’ll discover how you are individually inspired. You’ll learn where you are in the readiness for change and simple hacks to gain momentum. You’ll understand how you respond to expectations and what your “tendency” is so that you can move past apathy and find what has kept you stuck so that you can finally move forward. 
You’ll learn research from David McClelland, Gretchen Rubin, James Prochaska and Carlo DiClemente, and more. 
Understanding motivation style will help you learn what you can do to stay motivated AND how you can have greater patience for others and even help them stay motivated. It’s life changing!
Enjoy!
-Kendra
 
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Contact → hello@fulfillmenttherapy.org
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy 
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy 
Facebook Group → Private FB Group 
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching 
Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests
 
If you're ready for accelerated transformation, I'm launching Igniting Life on August 20th. This is a 12 week mental health and wellness reset for individuals who are ready for change in clear, step-by-step ways with necessary weekly accountability. If you’re ready to ignite your life and really start loving life again, this is the course for you. I guarantee that the investment you make will be returned tenfold with tried and true therapeutic techniques, strategies, and tools from an invested, trustworthy source. Your compound growth is waiting for you to make a commitment. It’s like I would tell my personal training clients: every dollar you spend on self growth is mathematically proven to save you in future mental and physical health costs. So truly, sign up now or you’ll pay for it many times over in the future, but without the joyful benefits. You truly won’t regret investing in my mental health and wellness. I never have–even when some courses were less beneficial because they showed me what else I needed. And since I’ve taken so many, I’ll go above and beyond. Guaranteed. 
Stages of Change, Human Motivation Theory, Gretchen Rubin, Four Tendencies Nutshell Guide, Four Tendencies Quiz, Star Wars Kid

16 | Understanding Cultural Laws, Fence Laws, and the Spirit and Letter of the Law

Do you sometimes struggle with all the rules, regulations, and cultural expectations in your faith? Are you confused at the wide variety of approaches to living the same gospel? Do you feel frustrated and overwhelmed by the check-list approach that seems to exist around you? Or maybe you feel shame when you can’t seem to get it all right and you don’t know how you can possibly remember all the rules and be the best person you can be?
Today we’ll talk about cultural laws, “Fence Laws”, and the Spirit and Letter of the Law. You’ll walk away with a better understanding of what you can do to be more spirit led, without any shame, guilt, and without feeling overburdened. 
You won’t want to miss this episode because it’s transformational. I promise!
-Kendra
 
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Contact → hello@fulfillmenttherapy.org
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Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching 
Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests
 
If you're ready for accelerated transformation, I'm launching Igniting Life on August 20th. This is a 12 week mental health and wellness reset for individuals who are ready for change in clear, step-by-step ways with necessary weekly accountability. If you’re ready to ignite your life and really start loving life again, this is the course for you. I guarantee that the investment you make will be returned tenfold with tried and true therapeutic techniques, strategies, and tools from an invested, trustworthy source. Your compound growth is waiting for you to make a commitment. It’s like I would tell my personal training clients: every dollar you spend on self growth is mathematically proven to save you in future mental and physical health costs. So truly, sign up now or you’ll pay for it many times over in the future, but without the joyful benefits. You truly won’t regret investing in my mental health and wellness. I never have–even when some courses were less beneficial because they showed me what else I needed. And since I’ve taken so many, I’ll go above and beyond. Guaranteed. 
 
“There are so many “shoulds” and “should nots” that merely keeping track of them can be a challenge. Sometimes, well-meaning amplifications of divine principles—many coming from uninspired sources—complicate matters further, diluting the purity of divine truth with man-made addenda. One person’s good idea—something that may work for him or her—takes root and becomes an expectation. And gradually, eternal principles can get lost within the labyrinth of “good ideas.” -Elder Uchtdorf
“Wherefore, take heed, my beloved brethren, that ye do not judge that which is evil to be of God, or that which is good and of God to be of the devil.” -Moroni 7:14
T10 Bearded Bishops, Rated-R Movies, & the Honor Code | An Interview with John Hilton III - Leading Saints

15 | Learn to Stop “Shoulding” on Yourself and Others & Start Exercising More Self-Compassion

Have you noticed that you often seem to be saying “I should” or “I shouldn’t” or maybe you say this to others and you wonder what it’s all about? Maybe you wish you had more self compassion and greater compassion for loved ones. Do you just want simple tools to help you decrease shame in your life? If so, keep listening. 
Today we’ll talk about all of these things using simple, therapeutic steps that will help decrease shame in your life and increase self-compassion and self-worth for yourself and your loved one. Listen in to discover the tricks.
Enjoy and best of luck applying the steps!
-Kendra
 
ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy 
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → hello@fulfillmenttherapy.org
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy 
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy 
Facebook Group → Private FB Group 
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching 
Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests
 
If you're ready for accelerated transformation, I'm launching Igniting Life on August 20th. This is a 12 week mental health and wellness reset for individuals who are ready for change in clear, step-by-step ways with necessary weekly accountability. If you’re ready to ignite your life and really start loving life again, this is the course for you. I guarantee that the investment you make will be returned tenfold with tried and true therapeutic techniques, strategies, and tools from an invested, trustworthy source. Your compound growth is waiting for you to make a commitment. It’s like I would tell my personal training clients: every dollar you spend on self growth is mathematically proven to save you in future mental and physical health costs. So truly, sign up now or you’ll pay for it many times over in the future, but without the joyful benefits. You truly won’t regret investing in my mental health and wellness. I never have–even when some courses were less beneficial because they showed me what else I needed. And since I’ve taken so many, I’ll go above and beyond. Guaranteed. 
 
“Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging.” -Brene Brown
You can use NOPER (notice, own, plan, execute, and repeat) or the Emotion Processing Model (NPEC-notice, pause, explore, and clarify). 
Dr. Carly Lebaron teaches that we can explore our rules behind our shoulds. She gave examples like how the rule behind “I should always be happy” is the rule that you’re not allowed to have feelings or “I should spend more time with my kids” is the rule that I need to be a perfect parent and I need to always entertain my kids. 
 
Is This Why You're Depressed? Stop Should-ing on Yourself
 
“Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging.” -Brene Brown
 
“[Shoulding] is based on an overly rigid rule inside your head that you aren’t able to live up to. Shoulds generate a lot of shame. This way of talking to ourselves is like having a little shoulder angel constantly finding fault and criticizing you. But shoulds aren’t that helpful in actually creating change. They mostly just make us feel miserable and discouraged.” -Emma McAdam
 
“When we leave piles of should everywhere in our lives, it’s easy to become discouraged, overwhelmed, and feel like a shouldy person. Should-ing is a bad habit that sends a message to your brain that you’ll never be good enough.” -Emma McAdam
 
Albert Ellis, the famous American psychologist, said, “Stop shoulding on yourself.” 
 
Karen Horney was a German psychoanalyst that noticed a pattern in depressed and anxious people. She noticed that they always say, “I should.”

14 | Creativity After Raising Young Children: How to Consume Less & Create and Produce More

Are you consuming MORE than you’re creating? Have you thought much about your creation-consumption ratio, and what it does to your body and spirit? Have you lived most of your life consuming things like education, entertainment, books, podcasts, food, and ideas– telling yourself that when you know enough, then you’ll put something worthwhile out into the world? And if you’re really honest, do you know it’s because you’re scared that you’ll be judged? Or because you don’t feel like you’re enough?
 
You are not alone! We are immersed in a consumption culture! But as always, there is good news. YOU can CHANGE your culture. The world is what we make of it! But maybe you’re like my clients and you’re feeling stuck. You might be wondering, where do I begin?! It’s been too long. I’ve been in survival mode and raising young children for too long to even remember how to create, let alone WHAT to create! 
 
Well, I’ve got your back. Today, I’ll give you all the hacks you’ll need to get started and help you understand the reason WHY it’s time to stop procrastinating!
 
Enjoy the show!
 
-Kendra
 
ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy 
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → hello@fulfillmenttherapy.org
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy 
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Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching 
Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests
If you're ready for accelerated transformation, I'm launching Igniting Life on August 20th. This is a 12 week mental health and wellness reset for individuals who are ready for change in clear, step-by-step ways with necessary weekly accountability. If you’re ready to ignite your life and really start loving life again, this is the course for you. I guarantee that the investment you make will be returned tenfold with tried and true therapeutic techniques, strategies, and tools from an invested, trustworthy source. Your compound growth is waiting for you to make a commitment. It’s like I would tell my personal training clients: every dollar you spend on self growth is mathematically proven to save you in future mental and physical health costs. So truly, sign up now or you’ll pay for it many times over in the future, but without the joyful benefits. You truly won’t regret investing in my mental health and wellness. I never have–even when some courses were less beneficial because they showed me what else I needed. And since I’ve taken so many, I’ll go above and beyond. Guaranteed. 
 
"The ego falls away. Time flies. Every action, movement, and thought follows inevitably from the previous one, like playing jazz. Your whole being is involved, and you're using your skills to the utmost," -Positive Psychologist Mihály Csíkszentmihályi
 
“The desire to create is one of the deepest yearnings of the human soul.” -Dieter F. Uchtdorf
 
“Our Heavenly Father knows our potential. He rejoices every time we take a step forward.” -Larry R. Lawrence
 
“You must learn to walk to the edge of the light. And then a few steps into the darkness: then the light will appear and show the way before you.” -Body K. Packer
 
https://jodymoore.com/61-creation-consumption/ 
https://getmessyart.com/020-70-ways-to-produce-more-than-you-consume/
https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-flow-2794768  (flow)
 

13 | Changing the Culture of Negativity and Problem Focused Narratives in Your Home

Do you feel like your home or family culture is more negative and problem focused than you would like? Do you find that most of your interactions are reminders about what someone isn’t doing and that you’re just noticing all the deficits in your life instead of all the gains? Maybe you notice, but the pattern is so ingrained in you, that even noticing doesn’t seem to change it. Do you wish you knew what would ACTUALLY help you make that shift to greater positivity and keep it for more than a minute? 
In today's episodes I’ll give you tips and insights on how to do exactly that. I’ll teach you 12 tactical tips on how to begin improving immediately. I’ll share ideas from John Gottman, Peggy O’Mara, Mayo Clinic, Ralph Marston, and more.
I know it will improve your life and the lives of those you influence, if you act on what you learn and start today. 
 
Shine boldly and brightly and enjoy!
 
-Kendra
 
ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy 
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → hello@fulfillmenttherapy.org
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy 
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy 
Facebook Group → Private FB Group 
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching 
Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests
 
If you're ready for accelerated transformation, I'm launching Igniting Life on August 20th. This is a 12 week mental health and wellness reset for individuals who are ready for change in clear, step-by-step ways with necessary weekly accountability. If you’re ready to ignite your life and really start loving life again, this is the course for you. I guarantee that the investment you make will be returned tenfold with tried and true therapeutic techniques, strategies, and tools from an invested, trustworthy source. Your compound growth is waiting for you to make a commitment. It’s like I would tell my personal training clients: every dollar you spend on self growth is mathematically proven to save you in future mental and physical health costs. So truly, sign up now or you’ll pay for it many times over in the future, but without the joyful benefits. You truly won’t regret investing in my mental health and wellness. I never have–even when some courses were less beneficial because they showed me what else I needed. And since I’ve taken so many, I’ll go above and beyond. Guaranteed. 
“Happiness is not by chance, but by choice.” -Jim Rohn
“Being positive does not mean ignoring the negative. Being positive means overcoming the negative.” -Ralph Marston
“The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice” -Peggy O’Mara
https://www.bbc.com/news/health-49447685
https://news.sky.com/story/looking-on-the-bright-side-helps-you-live-longer-study-finds-11795107
https://www.livescience.com/optimism-tied-to-longevity.html
https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/positive-thinking/art-20043950
John Gottman and the 5:1 Magic Ratio
A Child Called It, by Dave Pelzer

12 | LIFE CHANGING Tips for Massive Mindset Wins: Blocks and Barriers, Pearson’s Law, and Tiny Gains

In today’s episode, you’ll learn what blocks and barriers are and how these limiting beliefs are keeping you stuck. You’ll learn practical tools to help you discover your own limiting beliefs and what you need to do to move past excuses. 
I also share what Pearson’s Law is and why it’s important. Learn how you can have exponential growth in your own life, no matter what you face. I also teach concepts from James Clear on tiny gains and show you what the numbers actually look like when you put in small gains over time. 
We end with talking about insights from Darren Hardy, Grant Cardone, and Benjamin Hardy, all major authors, trainers, and thought leaders and teach you concepts that have helped transform me and my clients, and will do the same for you if you do the work. 
 
Liberate yourself from your fears, do the work, and shine on!
Kendra
 
ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy 
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → hello@fulfillmenttherapy.org
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy 
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy 
Facebook Group → Private FB Group 
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching 
Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests
 
If you're ready for accelerated transformation, I'm launching Igniting Life on August 20th. This is a 12 week mental health and wellness reset for individuals who are ready for change in clear, step-by-step ways with necessary weekly accountability. If you’re ready to ignite your life and really start loving life again, this is the course for you. I guarantee that the investment you make will be returned tenfold with effective therapeutic techniques, strategies, and tools from an invested, trustworthy source. Your compound growth is waiting for you to make a commitment. It’s like I would tell my personal training clients: every dollar you spend on self growth is statistically proven to save you in future mental and physical health costs. So truly, sign up now or you’ll pay for it many times over in the future, but without the positive benefits. You truly won’t regret investing in my mental health and wellness. I never have–even when some courses were less beneficial because they showed me what else I needed to look for. I’ll show you all those things and more. I promise to go above and beyond. Guaranteed. 
 
“The secret of getting results that last is to never stop making improvements. It's remarkable what you can build if you just don't stop. ... Small habits don't add up. They compound. ...Tiny changes. Remarkable results." -James Clear
 
“Forget about willpower. It's time for why-power. Your choices are only meaningful when you connect them to your desires and dreams. The wisest and most motivating choices are the ones aligned with that which you identify as your purpose, your core self, and your highest values. You've got to want something, and know why you want it, or you'll end up giving up too easily.”
― Darren Hardy, The Compound Effect: Jumpstart Your Income, Your Life, Your Success
 
“It's not the big things that add up in the end; it's the hundreds, thousands, or millions of little things that separate the ordinary from the extraordinary.”
― Darren Hardy
 
“Your biggest challenge isn’t that you’ve intentionally been making bad choices. Heck, that would be easy to fix. Your biggest challenge is that you’ve been sleepwalking through your choices.”
― Darren Hardy

11 | Faith Journeys: Navigating Faith Crises and Understanding Fowler’s Stages of Faith Development

In today’s episode, you’ll learn how faith is one of the greatest tools we have to improve the quality of life. You’ll better understand how to navigate your own faith crisis, or have more compassion for loved ones going through the same things. We’ll explore James Fowler’s Stages of Faith Development and what it means. You’ll better understand how questions are healthy and normal and that they will help you find greater strength as you approach them in helpful ways. 
 
“A childhood experience introduced me to the idea that some choices are good but others are better. I lived for two years on a farm. We rarely went to town. Our Christmas shopping was done in the Sears, Roebuck catalog. I spent hours poring over its pages. For the rural families of that day, catalog pages were like the shopping mall or the Internet of our time.
Something about some displays of merchandise in the catalog fixed itself in my mind. There were three degrees of quality: good, better, and best. For example, some men’s shoes were labeled good ($1.84), some better ($2.98), and some best ($3.45).
As we consider various choices, we should remember that it is not enough that something is good. Other choices are better, and still others are best. Even though a particular choice is more costly, its far greater value may make it the best choice of all.” -Dallin H. Oaks Good, Better, Best
 
“Asking inspired questions leads to knowledge. It leads to revelation. It leads to greater faith. And it leads to peace. Not asking questions, on the other hand, closes off revelation, growth, learning, progression, and the ministering of the Holy Ghost.”― Sheri Dew, Worth the Wrestle
 
“I told her, "Bring your scriptures… and every question you have. Questions are good. Let's see what the Lord will teach us together."
 
...During one of our study sessions together, as she threw a steady stream of questions at me, I asked her if she was asking questions against a backdrop of faith or one of doubt. "In other words, are you saying, 'Here's something I don't understand, so the gospel must not be true.' or are you willing to say, 'Here's something I don't understand, but I wonder what the Lord or His prophets will teach us about this?'
 
Are your questions asked with the assumption that there are answers? Are you willing to trust the Lord and give Him the benefit of the doubt?”
― Sheri Dew, Worth the Wrestle
“Are you willing to engage in the wrestle? In an ongoing spiritual wrestle? If we want to grow spiritually, the Lord expects us to ask questions and seek answers.
We live in a sound-bite world where "tweets," "likes," "posts," and "shares" have become the way we keep informed and share ideas. We are accustomed to expecting instant answers. But the most compelling questions in our lives rarely have quick, easy, Google answers. That is because receiving revelation and gaining knowledge, particularly divine knowledge, takes time.
It takes a wrestle.”― Sheri Dew, Worth the Wrestle
“Winning wrestlers learn to leverage their strength to subdue, overpower, and defeat their opponents.
Spiritual wrestling leverages the strength of true doctrine to overpower our weaknesses, our wavering faith, and our lack of knowledge. Spiritual wrestlers are seekers. They are men and women of faith who want to understand more than they presently do and who are serious about increasing the light and knowledge in their lives.”― Sheri Dew, Worth the Wrestle
https://firstbaptistwboro.org/stages-of-faith
 
I’ll share insights from professional experiences with clients, personal experiences, and from Sheri Dew, Dallin H. Oaks, Dieter F. Uchtdorf, James Fowler, and more. 
 
You’ll leave with an assurance that your 1% efforts towards increasing your spirituality in the way that resonates with you is enough, because it’s forward momentum. You’ll be better able to let go of “shoulds” and look inward to determine the best path for you personally and practice ownership and openness to discover what that is. 
 
I hope this episode strengthens you and helps you remember that you’re not alone, weird, or a misfit, but completely normal. Most of us will experience a meandering faith journey and it will look different than we expected, and there are things you can do to experience greater faith. Tune in for more episodes on faith in the future. 
 
Best of luck in your journey,
 
Kendra
 
ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy 
Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org
Contact → hello@fulfillmenttherapy.org
Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy 
Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy 
Facebook Group → Private FB Group 
Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching 
Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests
 
If you're ready for accelerated transformation, I'm launching Igniting Life on August 20th. This is a 12 week mental health and wellness reset for individuals who are ready for change in clear, step-by-step ways with necessary weekly accountability. If you’re ready to ignite your life and really start loving life again, this is the course for you. I guarantee that the investment you make will be returned tenfold with effective therapeutic techniques, strategies, and tools from an invested, trustworthy source. Your compound growth is waiting for you to make a commitment. It’s like I would tell my personal training clients: every dollar you spend on self growth is statistically proven to save you in future mental and physical health costs. So truly, sign up now or you’ll pay for it many times over in the future, but without the positive benefits. You truly won’t regret investing in my mental health and wellness. I never have–even when some courses were less beneficial because they showed me what else I needed to look for. I’ll show you all those things and more. I promise to go above and beyond. Guaranteed.

10 | Creating Boundaries: How to SET, ENFORCE, and MAINTAIN them so you can STOP Being a Pushover & Start Gaining Self Respect

Today we talk about the in’s and out’s of boundary setting, boundary enforcement, and boundary maintenance. I’ll teach you crucial steps that will help you minimize conflict so you don’t have to feel like a broken record and keep having the same friction points in your relationships.
I’ll teach you where you need to take more ownership and how you can do it in easy ways that require LESS WORK than your current patterns that never seem to work. 
You’ll learn top boundary setting tools that therapists like my husband and I use today and you’ll learn from other experts like Henry Cloud, Sharon and Gordon Bower, Adelyn Birch, and Anna Taylor. 
Today you'll learn several tactical steps to start applying immediately. If you want greater growth, grab your journal and start listening because this is what you need to improve family peace, enlarge your self respect, and increase your energy level and joy at home. 
I know you'll find amazing growth in the application of these principles!
Enjoy!
-Kendra
 
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If you're ready for accelerated transformation, I'm launching Igniting Life on August 20th. This is a 12 week mental health and wellness reset for individuals who are ready for change in clear, step-by-step ways with necessary weekly accountability. If you’re ready to ignite your life and really start loving life again, this is the course for you. I guarantee that the investment you make will be returned tenfold with tried and true therapeutic techniques, strategies, and tools from an invested, trustworthy source. Your compound growth is waiting for you to make a commitment. It’s like I would tell my personal training clients: every dollar you spend on self growth is mathematically proven to save you in future mental and physical health costs. So truly, sign up now or you’ll pay for it many times over in the future, but without the joyful benefits. You truly won’t regret investing in my mental health and wellness. I never have–even when some courses were less beneficial because they showed me what else I needed. And since I’ve taken so many, I’ll go above and beyond. Guaranteed. 
 
A boundary is a clear line that marks limits and can tell you where to stop. In any relationship, boundaries define where things like your identity, responsibility, and control begin and end. It is communicating what your values are and how you’ll protect them when they are threatened or violated.  Simply put, a boundary is a line that won't be crossed & what you will & won't tolerate.
“Boundaries need to be communicated first verbally and then with actions.” -Henry Cloud (author and psychologist)
“Boundaries protect the things that are of value to you. They keep you in alignment with what you have decided you want in life. That means the key to good boundaries is knowing what you want.” -Adelyn Birch (Author)
“Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious. You get to choose how you use it. You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won’t accept.” -Anna Taylor (author)
Boundary Tips: 1. It’s okay to say no, 2. Protecting your boundary creates self respect, 3. It's ok if others don't agree with you; It's not their value, 4. It's not your job to fix others or make them happy; you can only control yourself, 5. Be flexible but not a pushover, 6. Boundaries are not punishments but a protective fence, 7. It's not your partner's responsibility to maintain or enforce your boundary
Sharon and Gordon Bower and the DESC formula: Describe, Express, Specify and Consequences.