FULFILLMENT THERAPY - Marriage & Family Therapy, Self Mastery, Self Actualization, Unmet Needs, LDS Parent, Family Connection

219 | Deliberate Play: Revolutionizing How We Learn and Grow Together

Show Notes:
In this episode, we delve into the crucial distinction between obsession and passion in parenting and personal growth. We explore the concepts of deliberate play, flow states, and interweaving, offering practical strategies for parents to avoid burnout and boreout. Learn how to cultivate activities that energize and fulfill you, enhancing both your parenting skills and personal well-being.
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-Kendra
 
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Quotes:
Dr. Robert Vallerand, a leading researcher on passion, distinguishes between two types of passion: obsessive and harmonious. He explains:
"Harmonious passion refers to a strong inclination to engage in the activity willingly and with a sense of volition. Obsessive passion, in contrast, refers to an uncontrollable urge to engage in the activity."
Dr. Philippe Rothlin, who coined the term "boreout," says: "Boreout is a growing phenomenon. It occurs when an employee is unmotivated by their tasks and has lost all enthusiasm for their work."
As Adam Grant puts it: "Rest is a supply of fuel. We take regular breaks to maintain energy and avoid burnout. Relaxing isn't a waste of time. It's an investment in wellbeing. Breaks aren't a distraction. They're a chance to reset attention and incubate ideas. Play isn't a frivolous activity. It's a source of joy."
 

218 | Breaking the Roommate Cycle: Reconnecting with Your Spouse

Show Notes:
In this episode, we explore the all too familiar feeling of being like roommates instead of romantic partners in marriage, especially for busy parents. We discuss the signs of this "roommate phase" and offer practical strategies to reconnect, including prioritizing quality time, improving communication, sparking novelty back into the relationship, and rebuilding intimacy. We also share actionable tips to nurture your marriage and reignite the romantic spark.
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-Kendra
 
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Quotes:
Mignon McLaughlin: "A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person."
Patricia Love wisely said, "The deepest moments of intimacy occur when you're not talking."
Dr. John Gottman puts it, "Every positive thing you do in your relationship is foreplay."
Jackson Brown Jr.: "Love is when the other person's happiness is more important than your own."
Anne Morrow Lindbergh: "When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return."

217 | Overcoming Religious Perfectionism: A Parent's Guide

Show Notes:
In this episode, we delve into the complex relationship between religiosity and family well-being. We explore how excessive religious devotion can sometimes hinder personal growth and family dynamics, and offer practical strategies for maintaining a healthy balance. You will learn how to recognize signs of problematic religiosity, develop self-awareness, and create a more flexible and fulfilling approach to faith that enhances both personal and family life.
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-Kendra
 
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Quotes:
"The first principle is that you must not fool yourself – and you are the easiest person to fool." - Richard Feynman
"The most powerful weapon against extremism is moderation." - Queen Rania of Jordan
"Pride makes us artificial and humility makes us real." - Thomas Merton

216 | Navigating Sexual Intimacy in Midlife Marriages, with Dan Purcell

Show Notes:
In this enlightening episode, we explore the complexities of marital intimacy with sex and intimacy coach Dan Purcell. Dan shares his personal journey of transforming his marriage and offers valuable insights on bridging the libido gap, improving communication, and rediscovering joy in your sex life. Learn about the three stages of sexual development in marriage and practical strategies for creating a more fulfilling intimate relationship, especially for busy parents.
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-Kendra
 
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Dan Purcell's Links:
 
Dan Purcell’s Website: https://getyourmarriageon.com
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Podcast: Get Your Marriage On

215 | Turning Setbacks into Comebacks: Embracing Your Personal Temple Prison

Show Notes:
In this episode, we delve into the concept of hidden potential and how embracing discomfort can lead to personal and family growth. We discuss practical strategies for parents to seek out challenging situations, reframe discomfort as progress, and create a supportive environment for learning. You'll discover how to set achievable goals, practice new skills, and unlock the hidden potential within yourself and your children.
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-Kendra
 
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Quotes:
As Carl Honoré said, "The great benefit of slowing down is reclaiming the time and tranquility to make meaningful connections—with people, with culture, with work, with nature".
Alan Watts' wisdom: "There is no hurry... It is all here—so take it easy, take your time".
Thich Nhat Hanh beautifully reminds us: "The most precious gift we can offer others is our presence. When mindfulness embraces those we love, they will bloom like flowers".
As Mae West said: "Anything worth doing is worth doing slowly".
Walter Hagen's words resonate here: "You're only here for a short visit. Don't hurry, don't worry. And be sure to smell the flowers along the way".
 

214 | The Power of Awkward: How Embracing Imperfection Boosts Family Growth

Show Notes:
In this episode, we delve into the subtle ways we can embrace the awkward. Life is hard, but it is also so beautiful when we step into our fullest selves by growing. As parents, we especially need to to tap into our own growth mindset, whether that’s trying something new and not being afraid of failure, learning something alongside our kids, or taking up a new hobby with friends. You can do this, we can do this!
 
Enjoy!
-Kendra
 
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Quotes:
"If you're comfortable, you're doing it wrong," says psychologist Ted Lasso
"The only way to grow is to get out of your comfort zone," as Zig Ziglar 
Carol Dweck, the pioneer of growth mindset research, reminds us, "No matter what your ability is, effort is what ignites that ability and turns it into accomplishment"
Kristin Lohr puts it, "Growth is uncomfortable because you've never been here before – you've never been this version of you. So give yourself a little grace and breathe through it"
Nelson Mandela: "There is no passion to be found playing small - in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living"

213 | The Ego Check: How Illness Taught Me to Be a Better Parent

Show Notes:
In this episode, I talk about my experience with the transformative power of illness and how it can reshape our perspective on parenting and empathy. I discuss the challenges of maintaining mental wellness during health crises, the importance of accepting help, and the unexpected growth that can come from embracing vulnerability. You will gain insights into building stronger family bonds and developing greater compassion for yourself and your kids during difficult times.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
 
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212 | The Power of Gentleness, Meekness, and Unconditional Love in Parenting and Relationships

Show Notes:
In this episode, we explore the principles of gentle parenting, meekness, and unconditional love in families. We discuss practical tips for responding to children's needs with empathy and respect, while also maintaining healthy boundaries. You will learn how to cultivate emotional resilience, strengthen family bonds, and create a nurturing environment that supports both your and your child's well-being.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
 
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Quotes:
"It's not our job to toughen our children up to face a cruel and heartless world. It's our job to raise children who will make the world a little less cruel and heartless."
"So often, children are punished for being human. They are not allowed to have grumpy moods, bad days, disrespectful tones, or bad attitudes. Yet, we adults have them all the time. None of us are perfect. We must stop holding our children to a higher standard of perfection than we can attain ourselves."
"Meekness is the principal protection from the prideful blindness that often arises from prominence, position, power, wealth, and adulation."
"Meekness happened for us when we had to choose to “let go and let God”. We literally did that. We did the deep work and humbled ourselves in a way we never had before. We finally started acknowledging how our personal and joint actions were harming one another and our home.”
"Remember, no matter the problem, kindness is always the right response."
"Life is amazing. And then it's awful. And then it's amazing again. And in between the amazing and awful it's ordinary and mundane and routine. Breathe in the amazing, hold on through the awful, and relax and exhale during the ordinary. That's just living a heartbreaking, soul-healing, amazing, awful, ordinary life. And it's breathtakingly beautiful."

211 | The Hidden Trap of Pride: How It Affects Parents and Spouses

Show Notes:
In this episode, we delve into the subtle ways pride can impact our parenting and family dynamics. We explore the definitions of pride from spiritual leaders and discuss its effects on marriages and parenting. Through personal stories and expert insights, I offer practical strategies for recognizing pride in ourselves and cultivating humility. You will learn how embracing vulnerability and gratitude can lead to more fulfilling family relationships and personal growth.
Enjoy!
-Kendra
 
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Quotes:
Spencer W. Kimball offered a simple yet profound definition of pride:
"Pride is self-will as opposed to God's will. It is putting man's ways before God's ways."1
Ezra Taft Benson's teachings on pride. Benson expanded on this concept, describing pride as:
"Pride is characterized by 'What do I want out of life?' rather than by 'What would God have me do with my life?' It is self-will as opposed to God's will."
"Pride gets no pleasure out of having something, only out of having more of it than the next man." - C.S. Lewis
President Ezra Taft Benson warned that pride is "the universal sin, the great vice"
"Pride is concerned with who is right. Humility is concerned with what is right." - Ezra Taft Benson
"Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it's thinking of yourself less." - C.S. Lewis

210 | Why Your Kid’s Meltdowns Might Be About Your Unhealed Shame, with Crystal Haitsma

Show Notes:
In this conversation, certified life coach and parenting expert Crystal Haitsma reveals how subconscious shame shapes our reactions to our kids—and how to break free. Drawing from her experience raising four neurodiverse kids while traveling the world, Crystal shares practical strategies to identify emotional triggers, heal inner wounds, and cultivate calm even in chaos. Learn why traditional behavior-focused parenting advice often fails, and how addressing your own hidden beliefs can transform your family. Perfect for parents craving deeper connection, less guilt, and tools to rewrite generational patterns.
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-Kendra
 
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Crystal’s Info:
www.coachcrystal.ca
Insagram: the.parenting.coach
Podcast: The Parenting Coach Podcast